Canon in D

I €™m not sure if Katie has told you, but I €™m a music lover.   I love music.   It €™s a huge part of my life and I don €™t know what I would do without it.   Pachebel’s “Canon in D” came on last night while I was sitting at the computer and the second I heard it I was thrust into another world.   I pictured Kate.   I thought about our wedding (which I NEVER do).   I can remember standing up there on the alter.   We were so young but we were in love.

Its funny how music can send my mind racing like that.   “Canon in D” was played during our ceremony by a lovely string quartet.   I know it €™s a pretty common request for weddings, but that €™s one thing that I remember choosing for that day.   It has so much happiness and so much hope for good things to come.   I remember it as one of the happiest moments of my life.   And hearing it just now, randomly while my bride is asleep from a long day with the Bean, just reminds me of how far we have come and how thankful I am that I have someone like Katie to go through life with.

A couple of weeks ago when Katie opened up the blog to questions from you all, there was one question that stuck out to both of us asking if I felt the Bean has changed our relationship and did I look at Kate any different now that she is a mom and we have a baby.

Well the short of it is no.   I don €™t look at her any different than I did that day standing on the alter looking down that long aisle and thinking, €œThis is the best day of my life. €   Nothing has changed really except now I look down at the Bean sometimes and think, “This is the best day of my life.”   I don €™t think either one of us had a moment of €œOkay, now everything has to change because we have a baby.”   We have never looked at it that way.   Even from the start we have tried to tell ourselves that the Bean is coming into OUR lives.   Now of course sometimes this is hard and of course sometimes the Bean gets every second of everyday but that shouldn €™t change our relationship.   It should make it stronger.

I think the most important thing is that we continue to step back and actually LOOK at each other.   I see the beautiful redhead that I fell in love with so many years ago.     Now that beautiful redhead holds my beautiful son!   I can €™t even explain that feeling.   I see Kate and how happy she is with him and it just makes me smile.

Being in a relationship isn €™t easy all the time.   Having a baby isn €™t easy all the time.   BEING a baby isn €™t easy all of the time.   No matter where you are in life, its never going to be easy ALL THE TIME.   But that €™s what makes it so great.   That’s what I think about when I listen to €œCanon in D € – that even when times are tough and things aren €™t going your way, that there is happiness around the bend.   The sun will come out and tomorrow is another day.   So next time you have a bad day, or the baby is crying, or the dogs are wailing, turn the music up and take a deep breath.   It will help.

I hope everyone out there has the opportunity to find someone that can put up with you as you go through life together; it certainly makes it easier sometimes.   Someone who can tell if you need a hug on a bad day, or if you just need some time alone in the Man Cave.   Or someone who will let you at least have a Man Cave…

Take the time today and just give your special someone a genuine and honest hello.   Ask them how their day was and tell them that you were thinking about them.   Listen to “Canon in D” and think about where you’re going and how far you have come.   It €™s the little things that keep it exciting and moving forward.   Don €™t get bogged down with the day-to-day.

Kate and I are happier than ever.   I know some days we argue and fight, but that €™s life.   Some days we’re tired and cranky, but that’s life, too.   As long as we take a step back and look at each other so that we can communicate what we are feeling.   We are gonna be just fine.

I love you, sweet sexy redhead of mine.

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12 Thoughts to “Canon in D”

  1. Deb

    AWE! I agree and those are GORGEOUS wedding pics! When life is hard I remind myself how hard it would be to do it alone.

  2. Sarah H.

    This was so sweet! 🙂

  3. Beanie's Nana

    Looking at these pics, you both look so young and so in love. A lot of water under the bridge since then. More mature now, more issues to deal with, not quite so naive maybe…..but more deeply in love that ever. I may worry about a lot of things…..but never about your commitment to one another. And that’s the best gift in the world for Beanie.

  4. Susan Mangan

    I am so proud of you Chris. I remember you as a little kid and you have grown into quite the amazing man. I am honored to have you as a part of my life. Hugs and Kisses to you, your beautiful wife and sweet little boy. Sorry for the sap but can’t help it sometimes. Robert would be so embarrassed….not that I feel this way but that I said it on a website 🙂

  5. Katie's Grandma

    Chris, I always told Katie you were a winner!
    You prove me right every day! What a touching
    post – you made me cry (or is that because I’m old).

  6. Wow, Chris– what a lovely man you are!! That’s so sweet. Those pictures of Katie are gorgeous, both of you are lucky to have each other!

  7. Ashley

    This made me cry! That has to be one of the sweetest things I have ever read, and I know Katie loved it too!! She should be proud! I hope I can marry someone as sweet and caring as you are one day!

  8. Jackie

    You’re not supposed to make me cry. I am always so proud of the people you and Kate have become as your relationship and family grows. (And no we’re not crying because we’re old.) I wish I was as smart as you guys when I was your age.

  9. Emily

    So sweet. I wish my husband could express his feelings like that…or maybe he is and he has none! 🙂

  10. I did listened to “Canon in D”. I don’t know if I’m crying because of the song or because of this.

  11. Jen

    What a touching post. We played the same song at our wedding. I’m going to listen to it again (soon), because your post has inspired me to do so!

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