I €™m not sure if Katie has told you, but I €™m a music lover. I love music. It €™s a huge part of my life and I don €™t know what I would do without it. Pachebel’s “Canon in D” came on last night while I was sitting at the computer and the second I heard it I was thrust into another world. I pictured Kate. I thought about our wedding (which I NEVER do). I can remember standing up there on the alter. We were so young but we were in love.
Its funny how music can send my mind racing like that. “Canon in D” was played during our ceremony by a lovely string quartet. I know it €™s a pretty common request for weddings, but that €™s one thing that I remember choosing for that day. It has so much happiness and so much hope for good things to come. I remember it as one of the happiest moments of my life. And hearing it just now, randomly while my bride is asleep from a long day with the Bean, just reminds me of how far we have come and how thankful I am that I have someone like Katie to go through life with.
A couple of weeks ago when Katie opened up the blog to questions from you all, there was one question that stuck out to both of us asking if I felt the Bean has changed our relationship and did I look at Kate any different now that she is a mom and we have a baby.
Well the short of it is no. I don €™t look at her any different than I did that day standing on the alter looking down that long aisle and thinking, €œThis is the best day of my life. € Nothing has changed really except now I look down at the Bean sometimes and think, “This is the best day of my life.” I don €™t think either one of us had a moment of €œOkay, now everything has to change because we have a baby.” We have never looked at it that way. Even from the start we have tried to tell ourselves that the Bean is coming into OUR lives. Now of course sometimes this is hard and of course sometimes the Bean gets every second of everyday but that shouldn €™t change our relationship. It should make it stronger.
I think the most important thing is that we continue to step back and actually LOOK at each other. I see the beautiful redhead that I fell in love with so many years ago. Now that beautiful redhead holds my beautiful son! I can €™t even explain that feeling. I see Kate and how happy she is with him and it just makes me smile.
Being in a relationship isn €™t easy all the time. Having a baby isn €™t easy all the time. BEING a baby isn €™t easy all of the time. No matter where you are in life, its never going to be easy ALL THE TIME. But that €™s what makes it so great. That’s what I think about when I listen to €œCanon in D € – that even when times are tough and things aren €™t going your way, that there is happiness around the bend. The sun will come out and tomorrow is another day. So next time you have a bad day, or the baby is crying, or the dogs are wailing, turn the music up and take a deep breath. It will help.
I hope everyone out there has the opportunity to find someone that can put up with you as you go through life together; it certainly makes it easier sometimes. Someone who can tell if you need a hug on a bad day, or if you just need some time alone in the Man Cave. Or someone who will let you at least have a Man Cave…
Take the time today and just give your special someone a genuine and honest hello. Ask them how their day was and tell them that you were thinking about them. Listen to “Canon in D” and think about where you’re going and how far you have come. It €™s the little things that keep it exciting and moving forward. Don €™t get bogged down with the day-to-day.
Kate and I are happier than ever. I know some days we argue and fight, but that €™s life. Some days we’re tired and cranky, but that’s life, too. As long as we take a step back and look at each other so that we can communicate what we are feeling. We are gonna be just fine.
I love you, sweet sexy redhead of mine.