I try to keep this blog upbeat.Â If I had to classify it, I’d hope that it could be considered a humor blog.Â One of my main goals in writing is to show that sometimes life is sticky, yes.Â But its always a fun ride.Â And 99% of the time, I feel like I get close to that goal.
But then there is that 1%.Â Those times when life hands you situations that just aren’t funny and certainly aren’t fun.Â Chris and I are in one of those situations right now.Â I’m not going to go into a whole lot of detail because the issues and problems that we are working through involve people outside of me and Chris.Â As much as I share about our lives, its really not my place to share information about other people’s lives.Â But the gist is that Chris’ family is having a rough time right now.Â And if we were honest, I think we’d all admit that they’ve been having a rough time for a couple years now.
Families are funny creatures, aren’t they?Â God gives them to you and you’re left to find some way to get along with them for your entire life.Â And its only natural that sometimes some families go through situations that strain their relationships.Â Maybe its a fight.Â Maybe its an illness.Â Maybe its a change.Â Maybe its a little of all of those.Â Or none of those, for that matter.Â But every now and then all families come to crossroads.
Chris’ family came to those crossroads this week.
His dad was hospitalized for longtime health issues that have finally caught up with him.Â It has been really scary and stressful.Â He was in ICU for a couple of days, but he has been moved back to a regular room at the hospital tonight and we are hoping that this is the beginning of him coming back to normal.
Medical scares have a way of bringing people together when is seems like nothing else would have been able to do it.Â Its awful that this is what it has taken to pull his family together again, but I am so glad to see healing – both physically and emotionally – finally start to take place.
In some marriages, the spouse considers themselves part of their partner’s family.Â In our house, I do consider myself part of Chris’ family.Â But there are times when only blood can fix something and so this week my role has been to support Chris while he works through this difficult time with his family.Â Its hard to sit on the sidelines and watch Chris hurt.Â He comes from a family where communication is not exactly open and I come from a family where you can’t get us to shut up.Â So, its only natural that I just want to pick up the phone and tell everyone what they should be doing.Â But Chris knows his family and he knows how to talk to them.Â And I have to tell you that I have seen him step up this week in ways that I’ve never seen him step up before.
I think I’ve seen him as an adult for the first time this week.Â I’ve seen him take the lead in mending relationships within his family.Â I’ve seen him speak out and call situations for what they truly are.Â I’ve seen him cut through the crap and get right to the heart of matters in a clear, concise, mature way that I’ve never seen in him before.
When you’re a young adult and you get around your parents, there is the tendency and habit to revert back to childhood.Â They still fix you meals.Â They still make your bed.Â They still slip a $20 in your pocket as you run out the door.Â But in these past few days, I’ve seen Chris become the adult in his family.Â With his dad being sick, he has naturally slipped into the father role and I can’t help but wonder if he’s able to do this better now because he is a father.
Your health is so important.Â Your family is so important.Â Your relationship with your children – at any age – is so important.Â And sometimes it takes a really tough week like this to strip everything else away and leave what is truly important exposed.
I hurt for Chris and his family because they are my family, too.Â But this week I have seen glimmers of where that family can grow from here and it can only get better.Â But more than that, this week I’ve seen Chris as a man that I’ve never seen him as before.Â Strong and calm.Â Mature and focused.Â Forgiving and loving.
If this is what its like to watch your high school sweetheart grow up, then I am proud that I married mine.