You can’t tell from these pictures, but Chris and Bean are fighting right now.
Bean has always been a bit of a Daddy’s boy. He and Chris just have this special connection. They play. They laugh. They tickle. In fact, one of my favorite parts of being a mom is that I get to see Chris be a dad.
But in the past week or so, Bean has decided he just needs his momma. Between you and me, I’ve been waiting for this day since Bean was born! FINALLY! Bean wants me more than Chris! FINALLY! When he’s flipping out and crying, I’m the only one who can calm him down! FINALLY! I’m the one who can get him to eat, get him to play, get him to sleep. It’s all me, baby.
And it kind of sucks.
For whatever reason, Bean has decided that I’m his girl right now. It has been really sweet for me and a little disappointing to Chris. He gets frustrated now that Bean cries and holds his arms out for me when he’s holding him. It hurts his feelings. Plain and simple. And even though we both know that this isn’t an intentional decision, just a little phase for Bean, it can still be a hard pill to swallow.
While it has been really heartwarming to me, its also become a little annoying. Bean doesn’t want ANYTHING else right now. He doesn’t want his toys or his bouncer or his swing or Big Molly. Nothing that usually makes him happy is doing the trick right now.
Its all momma. All the time. And that makes for a very tired momma.
I think Bean is just going through a little phase here. Its not just me that has changed. He has also started fighting sleep and he’s never done that before. Now, when I rock him at night, he starts to flail his arms around as soon as his eyes start to close. He starts crying whenever he gets sleepy. I’ve heard that this can sometimes happen during growing spurts and I’m thinking that’s what this is. He’s not really teething right now so I know that’s not it. And I’ve noticed that he is suddenly too long for a lot of his clothes.
Poor little buddy. Growing up is tough work!
So, I’ve been giving him some extra loving this weekend. Extra cuddles. Extra kisses. Extra tickles. And while it takes a lot more of my time since I am now The Chosen One, its time well spent. Beanie is growing faster every day. He’s learning and making choices and expressing himself more and more. Its so great to watch and it makes me so proud of all three of us for creating a home that Bean is thriving in.
For now, I think this phase is the hardest on Chris. He misses his little buddy. So, I’m making sure that I give Chris some extra attention, too. Extra cuddles. Extra kisses. Extra tickles.
And for now, that seems to be working.