If I could have chosen the smoothest transition possible for Bean and Gracie, it would have been exactly what’s been happening in our house right now. Bean seems to have been born to be a big brother. He isn’t infatuated with Gracie, but he has a good, healthy interest in her. For the most part, he’s going about his day like normal. He’s playing with his toys, reading his books, hanging with me and Chris, but whenever something is happening with Grace, he’s right there by our sides to help.
We got Bean a stool to use in Gracie’s room. He can drag it over to the changing table and help there or he can drag it over to the crib so he can see her when she’s sleeping (though she isn’t sleeping in her crib yet). He really loves being able to see everything.
But his favorite part about Gracie is whenever he gets to help. He likes to bring me bottles or burp cloths or throw away diapers. He helps me pick out her outfits and he gets to choose which blanket we wrap her in. We try to let Bean make the decisions when it comes to Gracie as much as possible. It makes him feel like he’s part of what’s going on and he loves all the new things he gets to do since her arrival.
We have to sort of watch though because Bean is still a pretty little, rough dude. Sometimes when he gets really excited he also gets really rough. Balls fly, cheeks are violently kissed, and arms flail around wildly. It’s all out of happiness and excitement, but around a newborn it can be a teeny bit dangerous. Specifically the golf ball thing. We are really trying not to get on to Bean as much as possible right now so that he thinks this is all a positive time for us and we especially don’t want to turn these episodes into big issues because he really does mean well. So, instead of getting on to him, we just try to remove him from the situation when we see him start to get overly excited. Chris might take him outside for a while or we might send him off to find something in his room for a while. Then, he can be silly and rough and excited and we’re all still happy and proud of him, but he’s not…you know…threatening Gracie’s life.
Those times though are pretty rare and have only happened a few times in the past couple days. For the most part, Bean is an excellent big brother. Yesterday, he took a big step and SHARED MR. BEAR WITH GRACIE!
I couldn’t have asked for a better transition for Bean and Gracie. She seems to really like him and responds to his voice when she hears it by turning her head towards him when he talks. And Bean really seems to be in love with her already. He whispers, “It’s okay, Gaycee” when she cries and he runs for a binky whenever he thinks she might need one.
In short? Bean’s awesome. Gracie loves him. And that makes me one happy, proud, blessed Momma.