13Aug
On Saturday night, Chris and I were tucking our little ones into a king sized bed at the resort where we were having our back-to-school stay cation, and the phone rang. It was 9:30 at night, and it was a call from my mom. Such a strange time for her to call.
She said, “Something’s happened.”
She didn’t have any information yet, but the hospital had called her. My dad had been in an accident and was unconscious in the ER. She didn’t know what had happened, or how bad it was, but she was heading to the hospital and would call us when she heard anything. I told her we were packing our bags right then, and would drive the hour and a half to meet her and my dad at the hospital.
“Katie,” she said, her voice cracking. “I think it’s bad.”
I told her whatever happened, we would be right there with her. We were on our way.
My dad passed away before I could get to the hospital. He’d had a heart attack while riding in a friend’s golf cart. He had fallen out of the cart, and so the initial reports to my mom were that he’d been in an accident, but we are fairly certain that he had actually died of a heart attack.
In those first few hours in the middle of the night, it seemed really important how my dad died – was it the golf cart fall or the heart attack? – but over the past two days as my family has dealt with this surprising and abrupt event, the cause has become less and less important to me. To all of us, actually. My dad isn’t here with us anymore, and I don’t care why or how.
Let me tell you what’s important to me right now. What’s important to me is that my dad died on his way home from a round of golf with some of his best buddies. What’s important to me is that he talked to my mom, my sister, and me that day. What’s important to me is that even though his death was unexpected and certainly devastating, our family left nothing unsaid before his passing. As my sister has said, we knew how much he loved us and he knew how much we loved him. What’s important to me is that my mom, sister, and family have deep, resounding faith that brings us comfort and peace, even in the midst of tragedy. What’s important to me is that I know my dad is with his maker right now, and that my sweet Lord is saying to him, “Come unto me.”
I’ve spent the past two days with my mom and some of our family, making funeral arrangements and taking care of the logistics of death. And in between those transactions, there have been many tears. My dad was a force of life, and he will leave a huge hole in all of our hearts. But for as many tears as we have shed, we have shared just as many laughs and funny stories about him.
The sadness creeps up on me, but the happiness that he brought to my life is ever present. I see it in my mom and sister, in the family we have, in the love that hold us all together. Mostly, I see my dad in the sweet faces of my babies. It has been hard to be around my kids, really. Lord, how my dad loved being a granddad. He loved those two like nothing else I’ve ever seen. And I see his happiness in them.
My dad was days away from becoming a granddad again with the birth of my sister’s baby boy. Ginny hasn’t been able to be here with us because she is nine months pregnant, and can’t travel. That in and of itself has been really hard on all of us. What has truly broken my heart is that my dad passed before her baby was born.
But as the day has gone on today, Ginny and I have decided that the birth of that sweet baby is part of the divine rhythm of life. How merciful is our Lord to give us such a blessing in the midst of such heartbreak? At the funeral home today, the funeral director told us as we were leaving, “I’m so sorry for your loss. And congratulations, as well.” How many people are able to receiving condolences AND exaltations at the same time? What a blessing that baby will be to our family.
Life is short, precious, and unpredictable. But, I’ll tell you something, life is good. My dad’s life was good. It was full of all the things he loved – his wife of 32 years, his two daughters who adored him, grandchildren he spoiled, more friends and golfing buddies than I can count, and thousands of dollars paid in greens fees over his lifetime. He left no words unspoken, no adventure unexplored, and no questions unanswered.
I love that even in his death, my dad continues to teach me how to be a better person.
David H. Tillman
December 26, 1941 – August 11, 2012
1) Holly: I am so so so very sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine. My thoughts are with you and your family. (08.13.2012 09:36pm)
2) Lisa: I have been reading your blog for a while now and really enjoy it (I have a 16 month old too). I am truly sorry for your loss. I pray that God wraps his arms around your family and you can find joy in the arrival of your sister's baby :). Lisa (08.13.2012 09:38pm)
3) Angela: Wonderfully written. I'm so sorry for your loss, I know how hard it is to lose one's Dad. Praying for you and your family. (08.13.2012 09:38pm)
4) Sarah H.: Oh Katie. I have tears streaming down my face! I knew that when ever you did a blog post about your Dad it would be with the eloquent grace I love most about your writing. You have such a strong family! I have thought about you all all day long. I'm not sure if it helps or not, but I think your Dad's death has reminded a lot of people not to take family for granted; life is short, tell people you love them, give hugs and kisses! And for that reminder I am forever grateful. (08.13.2012 09:42pm)
5) Jamie: Katie, I cried from beginning to end. It is incredibly inspiring to see your family cope with this through faith. I know how much you loved your father through the posts you've written over the years and my heart breaks for you, your family, and especially Ginny. Youve been in my thoughts non-stop since I saw the news. I'm just so so sorry for your loss. (08.13.2012 09:42pm)
6) Natalie: Praying for comfort and peace for you and your family. (08.13.2012 09:42pm)
7) Angella: I have read your blog for the past three years Katie and I was truly shocked to hear of your dad's passing. I had been so used to seeing his happy photos with Bean and Gracie that it felt like I had met him before. I am so sorry for your loss xx (08.13.2012 09:42pm)
8) Janann: Katie, I am so sorry for your family's loss and yet so impressed with the clarity and love with which you approach this chapter. I also wanted to share with you that my grandmother (for whom I am named) passed away a few days before my nephew was born. I think you and your sister are right about the cycle of life. I had a similar reaction to the way my grandmother and nephew crossed paths. I think there is a balance in the way people enter and exit this life, and each time I look at my nephew, I am reminded how lucky he was to have such a divine lady clear the path for him. As you have shared so much of yourself through this blog, and I have had the good fortune to know you and Chris, I can only imagine how lucky your niece or nephew will be to have had such an amazing man clear the path, and how fortunate your mother will be to know those on both sides of that path. Sending love and peace to you all.... (08.13.2012 09:42pm)
9) Carrie: Oh Katie, I'm so very sorry for the unexpected loss of your father!!! I've been reading your blog since the beginning and I know how very special he was to all of you!!! As I sat here reading this post while rocking my daughter to sleep I cried for you and your family.... He was a very special man and I hope that your family will heal from this loss!!! I'll keep you all in my prayers (an easy delivery for Ginny as well). Sending you a big cyber hug!!! (08.13.2012 09:43pm)
10) Candice: I'm so sorry for your loss. This post has me bawling my eyes out because losing my father is the one thing I dread most in life. I hope when I have to face that terrible day, I can face it with the amazing grace you are. My thoughts are with you and your family. (08.13.2012 09:44pm)
11) Ashley @ A Recipe for Sanity: Katie, I wish there were something else I could say other than "I'm sorry". Those words just don't seem good enough somehow. But I am truly sorry for your loss. My heart breaks just reading this. All the posts you have written about your family show what an amazing dad you had, and I can only imagine the blessings he has brought to your life. My prayers are with your family, and I pray that God gives all of you peace during this most difficult time. (08.13.2012 09:44pm)
12) Andrea: Know that we are all thinking of you and your family. Thank you for taking the time to share your heartbreak with us. (08.13.2012 09:44pm)
13) Rachel: I'm so sorry for your loss! What a beautiful tribute this is to the life of a great man. I hope you are able to find continued peace in your faith and family. (08.13.2012 09:44pm)
14) Julie: I am so sorry for your loss. You have such a beautiful family, and you are still shining, even in this hard moment. Your love for your Dad is so clear in this post. For your whole family, actually. (08.13.2012 09:44pm)
15) Andrea in SC: What a beautiful tribute. I can't begin to imagine your heartache right now but am happy to know you're finding moments to laugh. I am so so sorry for your loss. I've read your blog for several years and feel almost as if I know your family......and you and your family are in my prayers. God bless you! (08.13.2012 09:44pm)
16) Kristin: I am so very sorry for your loss. I cannot stop thinking about your family. (08.13.2012 09:45pm)
17) Libby: I am so sorry to hear of your father's passing. Your faith is inspiring and I will surely pray for you and your whole family tonight. (08.13.2012 09:45pm)
18) Bronwen@Bronwenreads: I am very very sorry to hear of this, Katie, and I send my condolences especially to your mother - I could always tell from the photos you have posted of your parents how much they were still in love with each other. (08.13.2012 09:45pm)
19) Lisa @ Floating Along...: Sending lots of prayers, thoughts, and hugs to you all. xoxo (08.13.2012 09:45pm)
20) Jen: Katie~ I can't stop thinking about you and your family. I am so sorry! Your post is beautifully written and I am going to make it a point to make sure my parents know how much I love them. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and faith! (08.13.2012 09:45pm)
21) Ann: Well, I suppose Tillma, Sr, is meeting Tillman, Jr, in Heaven and sending him right on down to be with your family. What better start to life could you ask for? I'm so sad for your loss. I've just lost my very dear Grandaddy, and these feelings are so fresh. "Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where to love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy" Eskimo Proverb. Godspeed to each and every one of you. (08.13.2012 09:46pm)
22) Amy: Katie, I am so very sorry and am praying for peace to fall on your family in the days ahead. May you feel loved by your dad and your heavenly dad this day and always. (08.13.2012 09:46pm)
23) Allison: Oh Katie. You don't know me, but I've been a reader for a couple years now, and I have loved hearing about your family. I am so sorry for your loss and will be praying for your mom, Ginny, you, and the rest of your family. (08.13.2012 09:46pm)
24) Laura: I've read your blog for several years now, but don't often comment. I am so, so, so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and your family. This is a beautiful post--sounds like your Dad lived a wonderful life. (08.13.2012 09:47pm)
25) Amy: Katie, I'm so sorry. I hope it helps to know your "pretend internet friends" are lifting you and your family up in prayer. God bless you and keep you always in the promise of his love. (08.13.2012 09:47pm)
26) Angie: I read the news on twitter last night and I've thought about it all day today. I am so sorry for your loss. Your love For your dad shows in the words you write about him. Take comfort that his memory will live on, and you will see his presence in all good things. (08.13.2012 09:47pm)
27) Katy: Katie, my heart breaks for you, but I know your dear Dad is being embraced in heaven right now, and probably enjoying catching up with loved ones and friends. I can relate to what you and your sister are going through--my mother passed away suddenly almost 2 years ago, and I had my first baby, our sweet Kyrie, almost a year to the day she left us. And she was the spitting image of my mother. I do not know how we would have survived that first year without Mom if we hadn't had our precious baby girl to look forward to. I joked that Mom got up to heaven, and pulled our Lord aside and said, "C'mon, let's give them something to smile about." God's timing is perfect, and know that your beloved Dad is eagerly awaiting the arrival of his second grandson. Sending you love and prayers, sweetie. (08.13.2012 09:47pm)
28) Josey: Oh my gosh, I just SOBBED through this post. I am a long time lurker and a sometimes commenter, but I just wanted you to know that I am thinking and praying for you and your family during this time. What a blessing that your Father always knew how much he was loved. ((HUGS)) (08.13.2012 09:47pm)
29) Renee: My heart is so sad for your family, but I rejoice that your dad is with our Lord. This is a beautiful tribute to him. You are certainly blessed to have had such a wonderful man as your father. (08.13.2012 09:48pm)
30) cheyenna: I am so sorry for your loss. My heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family. I am amazed at your ability to write about such a loss with such grace. (08.13.2012 09:48pm)
31) Staci: I'm so sorry, and congratulations as well. I'm sitting here in shock and tears. It's crazy how "close" you can feel to a blogger but I feel that with you. Your words are so powerful and heartfelt and it's evident how much love you have in your heart. Thanks for sharing the good about your dad. How lucky you are to have been so blessed to be his daughter. My thoughts and prayers will remain with your family. (08.13.2012 09:49pm)
32) heather: Katie I'm so sorry for your loss. Your beautiful post is a wonderful tribute to your dad. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. (08.13.2012 09:50pm)
33) Trish D: Hugs you tight. My dad passed away in much the same way. Yes, we were devastated by our loss...BUT, we all know that we'll see him again and he is in a much better place than the rest of us are. What a blessing it is to know this! We should all just be grateful that we had the kind of dads that we were blessed with. Not everyone is this lucky! Take care of your family and just rejoice in Heaven's gain. Today is a good day, and yes...you're right..Life is good..God is GREAT. (08.13.2012 09:51pm)
34) Lori @ I Can Grow People: Katie, you and your family have been on my mind ever since I heard the news yesterday. And I was pretty strong reading your post until the photo of your dad as Santa with Bean in the doorway --that moved me to tears. Though this is a very sad time for all of you, I am glad that Ginny's baby is on the way--such a blessing to focus on. Hugs to all of you. (08.13.2012 09:51pm)
35) Brenna: I've been thinking about you all a lot these last 2 days. In my mind's eye I see your dad up in heaven with little Tillman getting ready to send him down to your family. He must be so, so proud of you all. (08.13.2012 09:52pm)
36) Melissa W.: Katie- I have tears running down my face as I read this! I am so truly sorry for your family's loss. You couldn't have written a better tribute to your dad- even in your grief your words were written so beautifully! I will be praying for your family! (08.13.2012 09:52pm)
37) Kristin: Oh, I'm so sorry. I know I don't comment very often and just lurk into your life, but I feel like I actually know your parents personally, and I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for you in the days, weeks, months to come! (08.13.2012 09:52pm)
38) Kay: I am a long time reader who has only commented only one other time, I believe. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss but I'm sure you're comforted in this time by your faith and your memories of your dad. Thinking of you and praying for your family, particularly your sister Ginny. (08.13.2012 09:52pm)
39) Erin R.: Katie that was so wonderfully written! I can't stop thinking about you, Ginny, and your whole family. Send you lots of prayers! xoxo (08.13.2012 09:53pm)
40) Whit: Oh, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. (08.13.2012 09:54pm)
41) Sara: Katie, I have been reading your blog for about three years now and have never commented until now. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Also my tears. I am truly saddened to hear of your fathers passing. I am so sorry for your loss, but you are right, congratulations on Ginny's baby boy. You still have things to be thankful in this hard time. Hold them close as you remember your father. (08.13.2012 09:54pm)
42) Kathryn: Katie, so so so sorry to hear this. I don't even *really* know y'all and yet I feel as though I know your family - I am so sorry for your loss. I'm so close to my dad and know you all were too. I can't imagine. I love all the pictures you have with him and with him and the kids. So special. Words can't express... (08.13.2012 09:54pm)
43) Nancy: So beautifully written, Katie and I love your perspective on dealing with this sudden event. Jewish people (maybe others, too? I don't know) say, "May his memory be a blessing" and what you've described here sums up the meaning of that perfectly. (08.13.2012 09:54pm)
44) Alexis: Katie- you truly honor your father with such beautiful words and tribute. What more could a person want in life than such a beautiful memory as he leaves with you,Ginny, and your sweet mom. Tillman will be such a blessing, and your dear father will have the best seat- watching above with our Lord. I've thought about you guys all day and continue to pray that our Father puts his strong arms around your family and brings you some peace and comfort during this time. May your fathers sunshine be on your face during these days and always. Our love to you guys. (08.13.2012 09:55pm)
45) Barbara Manatee: I don't comment often but wanted to express my condolances for you and your family. I'm glad you can find some peace and comfort in this sudden loss and that you all had contact with him that day. My heart also goes out to your sister - I can't imagine not being able to come home at this time. Hopefully her baby will have his/her own very special guardian angel. (08.13.2012 09:56pm)
46) Jen: Katie, I am just so incredibly sorry for your loss. It's easy to see that your dad was an incredible man, and he leaves behind a powerful legacy in you, your mom, your sister, and his grandchildren. His love for you all is so clear in every photo you have shared. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. (08.13.2012 09:56pm)
47) Erin @ Blue-Eyed Bride: Oh, sweet Katie. Your words are beautiful and it is so evident that your dad brought so much love to a very loving, lively, close-knit family. My heart breaks for all of you as I know you will miss him so much. You all are in my prayers as you grieve your loss and rejoice in heaven's gain. What a gift your words will be to your babies and Ginny's baby. Wrapping my arms and prayers around you all. (08.13.2012 09:57pm)
48) Katrina: Katie, I am so sorry about your family's loss... I am praying for you all. I've been reading your blog for a few years now (bean and my son are 2 months apart, and Gracie and my daughter were born days apart) and I had tears running down my face reading your post. Your attitude and post are so inspiring in the midst of the sadness. =) God Bless (08.13.2012 09:58pm)
49) Tiffany: So sorry for your loss. I've been reading for a while and I know your dad was a very big part of your life. You can tell by this post how very much you loved him. Prayers for you and your family. (08.13.2012 09:58pm)
50) Jordy Liz: Katie, You write with such strength but I can only imagine how hard of a time this is for you. How unexpected and sudden. I am praying for you and yours and I pray this new baby boy brings extra blessings from above. Jordy (08.13.2012 09:58pm)
51) Cathy C.: Sending prayers your way for comfort and peace. My mother-in-law died less than a month after our daughter was born. She never got to meet her only grandchild, something that has made me so sad in the months following her death. A few months before I became pregnant with our daughter, I had a miscarriage. I like to think that my mother-in-law has one grand baby in heaven with her and one here on earth with us. I'm so glad the baby we never met has someone to watch over him or her. I hope you can find the same kind of comfort in your loss. (08.13.2012 09:58pm)
52) Kathleen: A truly wonderful tribute. Thank you for sharing him (and his Thanksgiving stuffing recipe) with us. (08.13.2012 10:01pm)
53) carrie t: I am so so sorry Katie. I want you to know that tears are streaming down my face and my heart is breaking for your family. Funny how this crazy blog world has brought us all to love your family. I am saying prayers for your family and giving you a great big hug from Kansas. Love! (08.13.2012 10:01pm)
54) Erin B.: Katie, you and your family have been in my thoughts the last couple of days. I am so sorry for your loss. You are a beautiful writer and I can see the love for your dad shine through your blog. Your poise and grace through this profoundly difficult time is something I admire - it's why I have read your blog for years (plus those two cute babes of yours!). Thinking of you all. (08.13.2012 10:02pm)
55) laurenbtrain: I am bawling. Tears of sadness in your loss and tears of joy for the little one that will soon arrive. All I can think of are the words to the Matt Redman song, Blessed Be Your Name. The Lord gives and takes away, Blessed be His name. Praying for you and thank you for sharing his smile and life with us all. He will always be remembered and I pray that his joy, laughter and smile lives through each of you daily. (08.13.2012 10:04pm)
56) Janie: What a beautiful post. My heart hurts for your family and I will keep you all in my prayers. (08.13.2012 10:04pm)
57) Suzanne: Katie, again I am so sorry. Wonderfully written words about a wonderful man. I am so glad for you and your family's strong faith. I will continue to pray for peace to guard all of your hearts and minds. Our Lord is so good and as you said, you can rest in the knowledge that he is with his maker...probably teeing off now :) (08.13.2012 10:05pm)
58) Julie: I have no eloquent or special words to share with you. I am just so sorry. I love your perspective, but I'm sad for you, your sister, your mom, and the grand kids. I don't ever want to lose my dad. One of my biggest, irrational fears in life. (08.13.2012 10:05pm)
59) Dyanna: Katie, I haven't been able to stop thinking of your family since you posted on Twitter yesterday. I am so sorry for your loss but know that the birth of Tillman will be such a blessing at a time when your family needs it most. Like others I feel like we all know your family. Please know that we all cry for you, pray for you and will be here for you. (08.13.2012 10:06pm)
60) Debbie: Katie, my heart breaks for you and your family. I am so very sorry to hear about the passing of your dad. You have honored your father and family with your words. Know that ya'll are in my thoughts and that we are lifting you up and surrounding you with love. (08.13.2012 10:07pm)
61) Claire H.: I am so, so sorry for the loss of your dad. I wish you and your family peace and comfort during such a difficult time. Your words are truly touching and a beautiful tribute. I lost my dad unexpectedly as well three years ago and not a day goes by that I don't think of him and the wonderful memories. My heart goes out to all of you. (08.13.2012 10:07pm)
62) Jen Morris: Oh Katie. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. My heart breaks (as I'm standing in line at Walmart and tearing up). What a rejoicing there is on Heaven though. (08.13.2012 10:08pm)
63) Crystal: I have been reading about your beautiful family for a couple years now. I am so sorry for your loss, my heart is breaking for all of you. I pray that God will use the birth of the baby to mend your hearts. (08.13.2012 10:11pm)
64) Cassie: Oh, Katie. I've been a reader of yours since you started, I just don't comment very often. Because of this, I actually feel as though I really know you and your family, My heart sank when I saw where this post was going, as if a close family member had passed away. My heart is with you during this hard time. God knew what he was doing when he blessed your family with the news of a new baby. Jeremiah 29:11 "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." (08.13.2012 10:12pm)
65) Rebekah: Praying that God's comforting presence is felt even more than usual in this difficult time. (08.13.2012 10:13pm)
66) Andie: I know we don't know each other but reading this brought tears to my eyes.. My condolences to you and your family. I can't even fathom losing my dad. (08.13.2012 10:13pm)
67) Sara: Sending you all the love that I can muster, sweet Katie and family. (08.13.2012 10:14pm)
68) Natalie B.: a beautiful post. Many prayers for you and your family. (08.13.2012 10:16pm)
69) Ann: I've always loved your posts about your family because your parents and sister seem like such wonderful people. I sort of feel like I knew your Dad. I'm so sorry for this sudden loss. I know the grief will hit you like an unexpected wave some days, but how wonderful to have the joy of the new baby to balance it all. Many prayers for you and your family (08.13.2012 10:19pm)
70) Meggan: I am so very sorry that your Dad has left you all. My prayers are with your family as you work through the shock and heartache. I know he is watching over you all and starting on a new heavenly mission. Sending love from Alaska:) (08.13.2012 10:20pm)
71) Allison P.: Katie and family, I am so very sorry for your loss! I cried along with you as I read your post. Just knowing your family through this blog, I know that he was wonderful man! Blessings to all of you as you celebrate his life and mourn his death. (08.13.2012 10:21pm)
72) Amanda: So sorry for your loss.you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. (08.13.2012 10:21pm)
73) Amber D.: Katie and family, I am so so so sorry for your lost but I am completely uplifted by your extreme faith in such a difficult time. I cannot even imagine going through what you are dealing with but admire the amount of strength you are showing. I think that it is no coindidence that Tillman will soon be welcomed into the world and will carry on the family name. My prayers and thoughts are with you. (08.13.2012 10:21pm)
74) Jenn: I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. He sounded like an amazing man, a great father and a great granddad. I hope your dad's spirit continues to live on in Ginny's son. Thinking of you and your family Katie. (08.13.2012 10:23pm)
75) Megan: Katie, my heart is breaking for your family. I hope you all find peace in the memories of your dad and the promise of new life Ginny's sweet baby will bring - the Lord does have perfect timing, even though that doesn't erase the pain. I'll be praying for all of you, and I bet there are no greens fees in heaven. :) (08.13.2012 10:23pm)
76) Emily: I have read your blog for a while now, and I have always loved your honesty about life, faith, family. My heart breaks for you and your family- my daddy is such a big part of my heart. One of my favorite quotes says 'the only thing better than having you as my dad is my children having you as their Papa.' You and your family are in my prayers- including special prayers for littlest of hearts to have a peace that surpasses all understanding. (08.13.2012 10:23pm)
77) Krista: Katie, I've never written a comment on one of your blog posts, but I've been following you and your family for years. I realize now how selfish I've been not to tell you how much your family and their stories have meant to me. I'm so sorry that you've lost your dad, but I pray that you continue to feel the comfort of Your Father's arms. (08.13.2012 10:23pm)
78) Amy: Katie~ Hugs and prayers my cyber friend! (08.13.2012 10:24pm)
79) Jessa R.: You & your family are in my prayers. My father also passed away unexpectedly (from a brain aneurysm) - processing such grief is at times unfathomable, so I still seek comfort in God's word - "Be still, & know that I am God." Psalm 46:10 "In my Father's house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am." John 14:2-3 Knowing that our dads are with our Heavenly Father in Heaven ... Peace be with you. (08.13.2012 10:26pm)
80) Melissa: Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. I am sobbing while I write this. My dad, who was the light, laughter, and heart of our family, passed away suddenly a few months before my wedding. I always loved looking at your and Ginny's wedding pictures that you posted and seeing how happy, proud, and full of love your dad was for each of you on your wedding day. I love your attitude. So many people wondered how my sister and I could continue to smile and be happy after our dad passed, but you have expressed beautifully how you can rejoice in the wonderfully happy childhood, and loving, successful adulthood that your father made possible for you. The thought that I hold dearest and that soothes me the most is this: My daddy may not be here on this earth, but our relationship has not changed, it simply reaches beyond multiple planes of existence. He still loves me with his whole heart, I still love him with my whole heart, and nothing will ever change that even if he's doing his loving all the way from Heaven. (08.13.2012 10:26pm)
81) kelly h: Katie, my heart breaks for you and your family as you suffer this loss. However, I rejoice with you that you father sits now with his heavenly Father. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers! Thank you for sharing this amazing tribute with us (08.13.2012 10:28pm)
82) Anne: Katie, thank you so much for sharing this moving tribute to your father. Ever since I started reading your blog, I've always found your posts to be such a celebration of love and the joys of family life. Your admirable faith and family values are surely a testament to your wonderful parents. My deepest condolences to you all on the loss of your beloved father. (08.13.2012 10:28pm)
83) Courtney M: Such a lovely post. He truly seems like a womderful man. I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. (08.13.2012 10:29pm)
84) Margaret: Oh Katie, I am in tears. I am so sorry for your family, and wish there were something to say. Many prayers are headed your way tonight. (08.13.2012 10:30pm)
85) Rebecca @ The Reluctant Housewife: Oh Katie, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Even as I say that I know that there are absolutely no words to make what you're going through any easier. But you have a world of "invisible friends" who will be praying you through this season. And my heart just breaks for Ginny... I can't imagine what she's going through not being able to be there with you guys right now... (08.13.2012 10:32pm)
86) Hannah: I am so, so incredibly sorry for your loss. Your dad was obviously a great guy to have such an amazing daughter. Your entire family is in my thoughts and prayers. (08.13.2012 10:32pm)
87) Lissa: I am so sorry for your loss. Since I've started reading your blog in early 2010, it's been easy to see how great of a father and grandfather he was. I'm crying for you and also so inspired by your faith and strength of your family bond. May God bring you peace and strength. P.S. I think Ginny's baby will have a part of your dad's spirit in him - at least he'll have a special guardian angel. (08.13.2012 10:33pm)
88) Claudia: I am sorry for your loss. It is obvious that you are finding comfort in the life of your presence, rather than focusing on his absence. Ginny- I give you strength so that you are able to mourn your loss and enjoy the happiness of your baby boy. Katie, you and your family are in my thoughts. (08.13.2012 10:34pm)
89) Emily: My heart is breaking for you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you all love. (08.13.2012 10:36pm)
90) Chelsea: I am so sorry for your loss, Katie and family. May God give you comfort during this hard time. In the midst of it all, your post is absolutely beautiful. It is evident that your dad was an amazing man and father. My prayers are with you and your family. (08.13.2012 10:37pm)
91) Trisha: My heart sank for you and your family when I read about your father's passing. What a beautiful family he leaves behind and how proud he must have been of each of you. Our family will be keeping yours in our prayers. (08.13.2012 10:38pm)
92) Amanda: Such a beautiful expression of love for a man very clearly loved. My heart broke and the tears started with just the few words posted on twitter for each of you, especially Ginny. I cannot fathom the hurt she feels and yet is unable to be there. My husband said at his sisters funeral that he can picture the celebration they are having in heaven as they welcome a loved one home and that while the ones still left here on this earth are sad we should remember and rejoice that we will meet again. It is not goodbye but simply see you in the morning. Sadly less than 4 years later he had to share this sane sentiment at his Mom's unexpected funeral. Our son was 6 months old. At times I think that was the hardest part. Knowing our son would only know her by the stories we tell. Tillman will bring joy to each of you as you carry on your dad's legacy. I am so sorry for your loss, prayers that you feel God's arms wrapped around you. (08.13.2012 10:40pm)
93) Kelsey: I've never commented before either but what a beautiful post. Thinking of you and your family and I am so sorry for your loss. (08.14.2012 08:58am)
94) Meredith N.: My heart broke when I read the news, but I'm so glad that you and your family are also rejoicing in his life and love. I'll be thinking about you and your family. (08.14.2012 09:00am)
95) Maud: I have never commented. but I must tell you (even though we don"t know each other) I am so sorry for your loss. I am trying not to cry here at work ... I always though that there is one life taken for another one coming ... My grand dad passed away the day my second baby was conceived and it felt as a sign of God. I wish you and your family all the strength to go through this unexpected time of life. (sorry for my English, as a native French-speaker) (08.14.2012 09:00am)
96) Cheryl: There are no words to express how sorry I am to hear of the passing of your dad. As tears stream down my face, I am again reminded what a gifted writer you are. While your heart is breaking you have show the ability to find all of the positives, and that is what matters most. How lucky you are to have such amazing memories. (08.14.2012 09:04am)
97) Michelle Stirling: Katie. I have read your blog for a long time. You dont even know me I'm sure. However I'm so sorry for your loss of your father. My heart is with you and your family. Prayers all around. (08.14.2012 09:06am)
98) El: I am so sorry for your loss. You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. (08.14.2012 09:06am)
99) Lee Ann: Katie, I"m adding another voice to the many here who are sorry for your loss ... and thanking you for this beautiful tribute. (08.14.2012 09:07am)
100) Rebecca: I have tears in my eyes reading the wonderful ways you describe your dad. I'm so sorry for your loss and pray God wraps you and your family in love during this difficult time. (08.14.2012 09:08am)
101) Kimmee: I am so sorry for your loss. Your writing about your DAD was beautiful. (08.14.2012 09:10am)
102) Sarah S.: I am praying for your family and keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I am so, so sorry for your family's loss. (08.14.2012 09:10am)
103) Amy L Butler: Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. May God touch you and your family and comfort you, surround you with love and bring you peace. (08.14.2012 09:11am)
104) Meggie: Even though we don't know each other, I feel like I kind of know you and your family because of reading your blog for 3 years. What you wrote about your dad was so moving and sweet. I'm so sorry for your loss but thankful for your dad's testimony. Praying for you and your family. (08.14.2012 09:13am)
105) Michelle: Your words are beautiful. Your family is in my prayers. (08.14.2012 09:14am)
106) Katy: What amazing man and a blessing that you are able to say he was your father!! May you and your family find comfort in all the wonderul memories you have. Your dad would be so proud of this beautiful tribute you wrote...you will always be your daddy's little girl. God bless you all. (08.14.2012 09:14am)
107) Bridget: Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father two years ago, and as much as we celebrated his halo life, we also miss a man who brought us great joy. I hope that you continue to remember him as the whirlwind you describe him as, and that your family can take comfort in the birth of your new nephew. My thoughts and prayers are with you. (08.14.2012 09:14am)
108) Jessica: I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Your father sounds levan incredible man. Your post was beautiful and full of great memories of him. What a tribute. Thinking of you and your family. (08.14.2012 09:16am)
109) Ginna: What a beautiful tribute to an incredible man. Our hearts are with you during this sad and difficult time. (08.14.2012 09:16am)
110) Alaina: Oh wow...I am so very sorry for you and your family. You are all in my prayers. What beautiful pictures of your father. Please know that he is in heaven right now with that new grandbaby before she (or he) makes the grand appearance. I thought the same way of Aubrey after my Grandpa passed away. She got to meet him in heaven, and a piece of him is always in her heart. (08.14.2012 09:18am)
111) Kristin H: Katie, this is such a beautiful tribute to your father. I'm sure when baby Tillman arrives he'll carry extra kisses from his grandfather in heaven. Sending lots of prayers to you and your whole family. (08.14.2012 09:19am)
112) MistyK: My heart is with you all right now. What peace there is in knowing that a loved one is not lost for good. What Joy there will be when Baby Tillman comes! And how sweet is it that he gets to be so connected to his Grandfather? (08.14.2012 09:19am)
113) Annice W: What wonderful gifts he left for you: joy, laughter, humor, delight and that wonderful sense of humor. You will always miss him, but the memories of him will last as long as you do. Laughter and delight will always be a special part of your memory and will serve as a solace and aloe in your grief. (08.14.2012 09:19am)
114) Ciara: Oh Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for writing about it in such a beautiful way. Your love for him comes across so strongly and he must have been a wonderful man to inspire such devotion from you all. My thoughts are with you. (08.14.2012 09:20am)
115) kirsten: Katie, I'm so sorry for your loss. It is so wonderful to know that you had all said everything you had to say to each other and your dad knew how much you all loved him. I'm glad you got to talk to him that day. Your family is in my prayers during this very difficult time. (08.14.2012 09:21am)
116) Shannon: So sorry Katie!! I'm praying for you and your family. (08.14.2012 09:21am)
117) Emily: Katie, I'm so sorry for your family's loss. The way you are choosing to celebrate his life is an inspiration and what I know he would want. He will be celebrating with the angels when your nephew is born. Love to you all. (08.14.2012 09:23am)
118) Audrey: Katie, like many others here, I have been following your blog since the beginning and have read this post with tears - but I feel such gratitude with you and your family at all of the things that have brought you closer over the past couple of years. That you and Chris are in Florida with your mom is such a blessing in and of itself - my father lives across the country, and has dealt with illness, and it's so very hard to be this far away from him. I am so glad that you, Ginny, and your mom are such strong women and that your faith sustains you. Sending prayers, hugs, and comfort to you all! (08.14.2012 09:23am)
119) MaryanneD: Katie, what a beautiful tribute to your father. Although we have never met, I too am mourning the loss. You and all of your family are in my prayers. I pray comfort and grace for all of you. God bless you. (08.14.2012 09:28am)
120) Jessica: Katie, so sorry to hear about your loss. Your dad sound like an amazing man that loved you and the family. May he watch over you all until you see him again :-) Sending you love and prayers (08.14.2012 09:30am)
121) Katie: I am so sorry for you loss. I lost my dad as well and he never got to meet my second child and it breaks my heart to this day. I am so so so sorry - know that you are in my prayers. (08.14.2012 09:31am)
122) Emily: Thinking of you and your family! (08.14.2012 09:35am)
123) Kandace C: Katie, I am so sorry for ya'lls loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers through this difficult time. (08.14.2012 09:38am)
124) Sarah: My heart aches for you and your family. Love and prayers to all of you. I'd like to believe that your Dad is celebrating with the soul of Ginny's baby even before he arrives. Thank you so much for trusting your blog readers with something so personal so we can shower you and your family with prayers. (08.14.2012 09:43am)
125) Jess Z.: Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. Your words are beautiful and comforting. Thinking of you and your family at this difficult time. (08.14.2012 09:45am)
126) Sara: This is so hard to believe. If he had to go, I'm thankful it was in the middle of something he loved. Prayers to you, your mother, and the rest of the family. (08.14.2012 09:49am)
127) RachelC: Katie, my heart hurts for you and your family. I'm so so sorry for your loss. You are all in my prayers. (08.14.2012 09:51am)
128) Amber: I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking of you and your family. (08.14.2012 09:55am)
129) Alyssa: Your dad sounds like a wonderful man. I'm so glad that he left you with such amazing memories to hold on to. I wish you strength as you get through this rough time. (08.14.2012 10:00am)
130) Halston: So sorry for your loss, thinking of you and your family. (08.14.2012 10:07am)
131) Gina: Katie, I am so sorry for your family's loss, I have been reading your blog for a while now and I think I have only commented one other time, I also felt like I knew your father through this blog, what an amazing family you have, my heart is truly breaking for all of you. You are all in my prayers , RIP Mr. Tillman (08.14.2012 10:07am)
132) Alex: I am so sorry for your loss. I am thinking about you and your family during this difficult time. (08.14.2012 10:11am)
133) Whitney: Katie, I cannot imagine what you are going through, but I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss of your sweet dad. (08.14.2012 10:12am)
134) Amber: Katie-How truly heart breaking. I am so so sorry for your loss. Please know I am sending prayers for healing and comfort your and your family's way. (08.14.2012 10:13am)
135) Jess: Your beautiful post has crying for all the love and sorrow your family must be feeling right now. I've never commented before, but I wanted you to know that you and your strong family are in my thoughts. (08.14.2012 10:15am)
136) Stephanie: This is a beautiful post and I am so very sorry for you loss. (08.14.2012 10:16am)
137) Hilda: I am so very sorry for you and your family, especially your mom. But I firmly believe that your father is still among you: “Those we love never die; they live on in our hearts forever”. And from what I read in your blog, he was loved. (08.14.2012 10:18am)
138) Lindsay: I am so sorry for you loss. Your dad looks like he was a happy, joyous man. Hang in there. Thoughts and prayers are being sent your way. (08.14.2012 10:20am)
139) name*Rebecca: I am so sorry to hear about your dad. And, it is amazing how in loss like this we still celebrate life. His life and the life of your beautiful niece that is due any day. I have to say that before the birth of both of my kids and even my grandson....a close family member has passed away. It helped in all 3 cases to know they were in heaven and were angels to my kids and grandson. there are days it hurts....but there are more days of smiles. (08.14.2012 10:21am)
140) Jenn: So sorry for your loss. (08.14.2012 10:24am)
141) Molly: Oh Katie - my heart was hurting for you and your dear family while I read this, but when I reached the end and saw that your dad was born the same day as my dad, it contracted and broke. There is so little I can do to offer comfort to you aside from send my greatest sympathies; however, I can call my dad when I get home and tell him how much I love him. (08.14.2012 10:27am)
142) Tracy: Oh my goodness Katie, I am so very sorry to hear about your Daddy. Prayers are going to you and your family in this time of grief. (08.14.2012 10:27am)
143) Loesie: So sorry for you. Lots of hugs to you all. (08.14.2012 10:28am)
144) Aline: Dear Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. My sentiments! (08.14.2012 10:28am)
145) Rachel: This was so beautifully written, your dad sounds like an amazing man who led a wonderful, fulfilling life. I'm sorry for your loss and hope your family and God bring you comfort in the weeks and months ahead. (08.14.2012 10:28am)
146) Sherie: Hi Katie - I have never commented before, but felt I had to reach out to you. I lost my dad the EXACT same way 5 years ago. While a quick passing can be a great blessing, the shock to those left behind can be extremely painful. I am praying for you and your sweet family. The very best advice given to me during those early days was the simplest - "time heals all wounds" - I think this is especially true about grief. My dad was a wonderful Christian man as well so I always assumed losing him would not be as hard but I think your first loss of a parent brings a whole other layer of grief you can't fully realize until it has happened to you. Be willing to give yourself lots of time and know that even though you will never stop missing him a little every day, eventually those precious memories will begin to overshadow the tremendous sense of loss. (08.14.2012 10:28am)
147) Heather: Wow, Katie, you and your family are truly an inspiration! I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you all! (08.14.2012 10:31am)
148) Teresa: I am so very sorry for your loss. Your tribute to your dad brought tears to my eyes. My cousin's husband died on the golf course as well. We know they were doing something they loved and their passing was quick. God bless you and yours. (08.14.2012 10:35am)
149) Carmen: Katie & Family, I always read, and rarely comment. I was shocked and broken hearted when I read that your dad passed away. Immediately, I thought of Ginny and the baby. I am due in November and my grandma has cancer. The pregnancy has held our family together and given us something to smile about and I have no doubt her new baby will do the same! I saw that they are naming him Tillman and I think that was all part of God's plan. Even with your strong faith and supportive family, I can't imagine the pain and heart break you are feeling. Praying for you and yours! (08.14.2012 10:36am)
150) farrar: Oh Katie! I am so very sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family. I read your blog every day and I feel like I know you and your family. I am just at a loss. Prayers. (08.14.2012 10:39am)
151) Abbie: I am so sorry sweet Katie. My heart aches for you and your family. My prayers are with you. (08.14.2012 10:40am)
152) Michelle: I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad about 11 years ago and it is truly one of the hardest things in life. I know the pain of looking at the grand kids and thinking how much you dad would have loved each moment. I am so glad you have so many wonderful memories of him and I wish you much comfort and peace at this difficult time. (08.14.2012 10:40am)
153) Ashley: I am so very sorry to hear about your Dad. I have thought of you and your family so much since reading this last night. Know that there are so many of us praying for you, your mom, your sister and families by name. (08.14.2012 10:41am)
154) Tara: Incredibly we heard this on the news before ever reading a post or tweet from you. It stopped us dead in our tracks and we thought what a tragedy and said a prayer. Little did I know it was your father. I am so grateful I was able to then read the truth behind both the story and the man. May peace and the Lord be with you Katie and family. May you always know that you have a wonderful angel and those children of yours and Ginny will carry on the legacy for many years to come. Continue finding comfort and faith in eachother and knowing that he is playing a round of gold up there in the greens of heaven. God bless you all you will continue to be be in my thoughts and prayers. And dont forget to look for those little signs, something tells me he will be sending many in the weeks to come. (08.14.2012 10:44am)
155) Marie: Katie - I'm a lurker. I never comment unless one of your posts moves me to tears (sad tears, as you make me laugh until I cry on a regular basis). I am so sorry to hear about your Dad but happy that your family is receiving one miracle as you're losing another. Thinking of you and your family at this time. (08.14.2012 10:45am)
156) Sharlee: Katie, I read this last night and I was just shocked and so saddened by your loss. I cried as I read your post, and I felt saddened for hours afterward. I woke up today thinking, I just need to tell her how sorry I am for her loss. I prayed for you and your family last night. You clearly have a great attitude about this loss and a great perspective, but I know it's going to hurt in countless ways for a long time, probably until you see him again. And that's what I am sorry for. I send love and prayers to you and your family. (08.14.2012 10:49am)
157) Mariya: Oh my gosh. I'm really trying not to cry. I'm so sorry for your loss and am awed by the positivity of your words. My husband's poppy died a few months before our daughter was born and similar words were said to us. I wish you peace in this tough time. (08.14.2012 10:52am)
158) Lucia: Katie, I'm so sorry. I'm a lurker and saw a posting on instagram about your dad, I'm still in shock, but your writing is beautiful. Your dad will always live on in the sweet faces of your children and your nephew. My thoughts are with you and your family. (08.14.2012 10:55am)
159) elissa: So sorry to hear of your loss. You have wonderful perspective! I am thinking of you and your growing family. Much love from Washington, DC. (08.14.2012 10:57am)
160) Carrie: Katie, I'm so very sorry for your loss. This what was such a beautifully written post. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. (08.14.2012 10:58am)
161) Mallory: My heart is breaking for your precious family, Katie. So true that He gives and takes away. Praise God for your ability to see His goodness in this midst of suffering and be such a strong witness to those around you. (08.14.2012 10:58am)
162) Lauren: I've never commented before, but always love reading your posts. I am so sorry for your loss. Your faith shines through your words and I pray for peace & comfort for your entire family during this time. (08.14.2012 10:59am)
163) Dianne: I am so very sorry for your loss. And I am sending hugs to you and your family. (08.14.2012 11:04am)
164) Alice: I'm so sorry to hear this, Katie. I'm not a religious person, but last night I said a short prayer for you and your family. Stay strong, Alice (08.14.2012 11:06am)
165) Kourtney: Katie, I read your blog everyday - you are such an inspiration as a wife, mother, teacher, friend, and follower of Christ. I am keeping you and your family in my prayers. Remember Matthew 5:4 "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted." (08.14.2012 11:10am)
166) Megan: Katie, I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad passed away last year, shortly before my wedding. What you said about the divine rhythm of life and God providing blessings in the middle of heartache was so true. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. (08.14.2012 11:10am)
167) Mary: Dear Katie, I have followed your blog for years and never commented, but I wanted to say how deeply sorry I am to hear about your dad passing away so suddenly. I have always enjoyed reading about him as a grandpa, and I will keep you and your family in my prayers! (08.14.2012 11:11am)
168) Meghan: I am so sorry about your loss. (08.14.2012 11:13am)
169) Mandy: I'm so sorry for your loss. I am praying for you and your family. (08.14.2012 11:18am)
170) Jo: So sorry for your loss, Brown Family. Your mama and sister are also in my thoughts today. (08.14.2012 11:19am)
171) SanDee: Katie and family, I am so sorry for your loss. Your tribute to your dad warmed my heart and the strength of your faith is amazing....I too believe your dad is in heaven hanging out with (08.14.2012 11:21am)
172) SanDee: Hanging out with Tillman... I hope the peace in your hearts remains... (I hit submit by accident...sorry about taking up 2 posts!) (08.14.2012 11:24am)
173) Katie C: My heart is broken for you. I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing your heart peace! (08.14.2012 11:24am)
174) Courtney: Katie, our prayers are with you all! your strength and faith will bring you all through the tough days ahead. i am amazed at your outlook and attitude...many people would be despairing right now, but you prove how wonderful and supportive faith and family can truly be. Keep it up! (08.14.2012 11:25am)
175) Kelle: Katie, I am so very sorry for your loss. Your family is in my prayers. I have been reading your blog for the last year or so and your families love for each other through thick and thin is very apparent. Your sister's baby will feel the love your dad had for him even before he was born through all the wonderful stories that you will be able to share. Again, I am so sorry! (08.14.2012 11:27am)
176) Ashley Jones: Sweet girl, I am so very sorry. I lost my daddy a year & a half ago- a heart attack also. My dad passed away in his sleep- also something he loved to do. :) I cried when I read your post, and looked at your photos, because I know that these photos will be (I'm sure they are already) the most important thing to you right now. Hang on to them, and remember those happy times. I will not tell you that it gets easier, because I don't really know that it does. I do know, though, that if you keep your family & friends close, it will feel a little better. I am praying for you & your family. The next few days, weeks, months & years will be so hard, but you will make it through. Anniversary dates are the worst ever, but hang in there. If you want to get mad, get mad. If you want to cry, cry. The people who love you will understand. I am thinking of you, and I truly feel your pain. Be thankful for the time you had with him. One of my biggest hurts is that my dad will never get to see his grandchildren, but a sweet friend in the same situation once told me that, "Yes, he will. He'll be the first to see them." Loved that! Take comfort in knowing that he's with God now, and there will be a happy, happy reunion one day!! :) (08.14.2012 11:31am)
177) KLMullins: As I sit here saying a prayer for your family on not only the passing of your dad but the birth of Ginny's sweet baby. I want to offer my deepest sympathy. It is never easy loosing a loved one. You have many wonderful memories and stories to tell of your dad. He will live on in you and your family and those sweet grand babies. Praying for strength and comfort for your family. (08.14.2012 11:35am)
178) Kristen: PRAYING for you all. I am so sorry for your loss. He is probably looking down from heaven smiling fondly at all of you. (08.14.2012 11:36am)
179) Colleen: what a beautiful and well written post. please know that so many of us are praying for your family and sending hugs your way... (08.14.2012 11:37am)
180) Miriam: I cannot even imagine the loss you are feeling. But I am happy that you are able to find solace and happiness as well. Every time you have spoken of your parents on this blog it was so apparent that you adored both your parents and your admiration for your father seems well deserved. I hope that the birth of your nephew will bring so much joy among the pain of loss. (08.14.2012 11:40am)
181) Adrienne: So very sorry for your loss! "God is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit." (08.14.2012 11:43am)
182) Alisha: Ginny is a sorority sister of mine, and between her social media activity, and my dedication to your blog, I feel like I know your family so much more than I actually do in real life. When one of our sisters emailed us with the news, my heart was broken for all of you, and my first thought was also Tillman, and how your dad JUST missed meeting him. You all have a wonderful perspective on life and although this next week or two will be the simultaneously the happiest & saddest in a long time, it's so great to know you'll be together through it all. Many condolences...and congratulations. (08.14.2012 11:45am)
183) Laura: Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my father two years ago and it still feels like yesterday. You were blessed to share so many important events with your father, and I'm sure he must have felt like the luckiest man on earth to have had such a great family. Sending positive thoughts your way... (08.14.2012 11:45am)
184) Mary: Katie, I am unbelievably sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister and your whole family. (08.14.2012 11:48am)
185) Angie: When I first saw your Tweet, I thought it could not be true. Every time you talk about your dad on your blog he is always smiling, on the go and you are talking about the adventures your kids were having with him. My next thoughts were of Ginny. To be so close to birth; my heart broke for both of you. Like many other commentors, I too had tears in my eyes from the start to the finish of your post, but also smiled at the photos you chose to use in this post. I think they must have truly represented his love for life and his family. God bless you all. (08.14.2012 11:53am)
186) Callie: This post was both heartbreaking and beautiful- I'm so, so sorry for your loss, Katie. (08.14.2012 11:53am)
187) Crystal: My prayers are with your family during these trying times. "Death is not extinguishing the light; it is putting out the lamp because dawn has come" (08.14.2012 11:55am)
188) Leslie: Oh Katie, I am so sorry for your loss, but am inspired by your grace. Your confidence in your father's love and God's will and plan are amazing. You, your family, and your heartbroken sister are in my prayers; all of your children will know your father through the stories you tell and his memory which you will honor and continue. (08.14.2012 12:00pm)
189) Deb Michurski: Katie - I read your blog everyday and so enjoy your humor and honesty on life, motherhood and marriage. But today when I read your post the tears just flowed! I am truly sorry for the lost of your wonderful father. His smile speaks volumes of the man he must have been. I lost my mom almost 2 years ago and at times the pain is as if it were yesterday. But also I have joy for her everyday that she is at home with our Lord and at peace and without pain. May those close to your give you the comfort and support in the days that follow and my your dear father's spirit give you peace and comfort throughout the years. God Bless! (08.14.2012 12:02pm)
190) Cheryl: Katie, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My thougths are with you and your family. I lost my father on June 14 of this year, so I really empathize with you. I'm always surprised how often my grief sneaks up on me. Your outlook on the loss of your father is a very comforting one. You inspire me to be braver. I'm getting married in 3 weeks and I've been worried about how sad I might become when I think of Dad's absence during such a special occation. I think that your perspective is exactly what I need to keep in mind so that I remember to celebrate and not mourn on my wedding day. (08.14.2012 12:04pm)
191) Beret: I was so shocked to log on and see this post today. I am truly sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your entire family. (08.14.2012 12:09pm)
192) Angela: I would like to express just how sorry I am - but what I want more is for you to feel the love and understanding I am sending to you and your family. My mother passed away very unexpectedly just over 3 weeks ago, and I am working through this alongside you. It seems like the cruelest thing that at a time when you just want to stop everything and grieve the loss of someone so vital to the person that you are, that there is so much to do. So I'll say what I keep saying to myself - stop, take a deep breath, and know that things can only get easier from here. As you said, what a blessing to have Ginny's soon-to-arrive baby to remind you of the amazing gift your father gave you all - each other. Take care. (08.14.2012 12:09pm)
193) SarahPLIz: I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and I am praying for peace for you and your family as I sit here tearing up at my desk. So here are a few internet hugs from a stranger. God Bless you all! (08.14.2012 12:09pm)
194) Sarah: My heart is breaking for you and your family and at the same time, smiling for what an amazing tribute to your father and your faith. A life well lived is not about longevity, it's about legacy and what an amazing one your dad seems to have left behind. (08.14.2012 12:12pm)
195) jess: i'm so very sorry for your loss. what a blessing that you left nothing unsaid between you all. your family is my thoughts. wishing you all the strength and faith you'll need in the coming weeks. (08.14.2012 12:12pm)
196) Lisa: I have read your blog for a long time but have never commented. I am so sorry for your loss. From all of your posts about your dad, I can tell he was a great man. I will be praying for your family. (08.14.2012 12:15pm)
197) Christy: Katie, I am so sorry for your loss! What an amazing tribute to your dad and such an encouragement to others to be able to celebrate his life even while you mourn his death. I will be praying for you all. God bless you! (08.14.2012 12:25pm)
198) Brenda: So sorry for your loss - I read your blog faithfully and feel like I know your family. This news broke my heart. You wrote a great tribute to your dad. Hugs to you and your family. My father passed away 2 months before I gave birth to his first grandchild - my daughter was a beam of sunshine in what would have otherwise been the darkest of times. I hope your sister's baby can bring a little sunshine for your family. Your children will always have a guardian angel watching over them. (08.14.2012 12:37pm)
199) Donna: I am so sorry for your loss, but love what you have put here. I love how you talked about talking and letting your loved ones know that they are loved, that is one of the most important things to do in life. (08.14.2012 12:39pm)
200) Kristinia: Praying for you and your family! (08.14.2012 12:40pm)
201) Kelly P: I'm so sorry for your loss. What a lovely post about your father. I'll be praying for you and your family. (08.14.2012 12:56pm)
202) Mary: Katie, I am a long time reader and comment very rarely, but I needed to come here and and say that I am so, so sorry for your loss. Your post brought me to tears. My heart hurts for all of you, and you are in my thoughts and prayers. (08.14.2012 12:58pm)
203) Kat: Katie- I am so so so so sorry :( I don't have words to even begin to write how devastating this news must be. Just know you're in our thoughts. (08.14.2012 01:00pm)
204) tlj: I'm so sorry for your loss. I am heartbroken for you because I know what sudden loss feels like. It is so wonderful that in your hurt, you can post such lovely memories of your father. I'm praying for you and your family. (08.14.2012 01:02pm)
205) Layne: I was browsing Reader last night as I was waiting for the hubs to come to bed and stumbled across your post. It took my breath away and took me right back to losing my dad. This year marks 10 years and I still count that as the hardest time in my life. There are no words for that kind of pain and all I can say is how sorry I am that you and your family are experiencing it. From the posts I've read over the years and the pictures you've shared your dad just seems to ooze life and happiness. He had a wonderful smile. I know that your faith and your family will bring you through this. I find comfort in times like these to look around me and find the ways that God has touched me, ordered my life to make it just a tiny bit more bearable. You've done just that. It was so encouraging to read your realizations of this too: that your dad spoke to all the most important people in his life that day, that he was spending time doing what he enjoyed with good friends, and that Ginny's baby's arrive was timed to provide the light that your family needs to get you through a dark time. I think that is what touched me most; was your vision of faith in such a hard time because that is how I got through my own loss. It makes me happy to know that you have such a strong faith and supportive family to carry you all through this. May God bless you and keep you. (08.14.2012 01:06pm)
206) Emily O'Brien: I am so sorry about your dad. Thank you for sharing such a private part of your life with us. Prayers with your family and your sister. (08.14.2012 01:16pm)
207) Lindsay (Young Married Mom): God bless you and your family. Somehow I could tell from just the title of this post that something bad had happened, and I am so sorry for your loss. God's grace gives us the strength when we don't have it ourselves, and I firmly believe others' prayers are what got me through a very difficult time earlier this year. Know that we are thinking of you and praying for you, your dad, and your family. May he rest in God's glorious peace. (08.14.2012 01:46pm)
208) Stacy: Oh Katie, I'm so sorry! My thoughts and prayers are with your beautiful family. Your dad's love for all of you shone through in all of your family pictures you have posted over the years. My heart hurts for all of you. Praying God blesses you all that are together with comfort, and for sweet Ginny that she may have strength and comfort as she can't be with you all. May that sweet new baby bring such joy to your family. (08.14.2012 01:47pm)
209) Rita: I'm so sorry for your loss. There's no way to be ready for such a thing and my heart breaks for your family. I'm taking this whole post as a reminder to be more patient with my loved ones and not take any conversation we have for granted. (08.14.2012 01:54pm)
210) Amanda: Oh, Katie =( I am so sorry to hear this. I'm sending your family thoughts and prayers. And thank you for sharing something so personal and sharing your faith in such a sad time. (08.14.2012 02:02pm)
211) Tori: Please accept my condolences on the passing of your father. His life was clearly filled with love and happiness, and this post serves as a moving testament to the way he lived. My thoughts are with you during this time. (08.14.2012 02:10pm)
212) Marina H: Katie, I'm only fifteen years old and I've been reading your blog since I was in seventh grade. Even then I always noticed how strong your family was. There was so much love with every reference to them, especially your father. I am so sorry for your loss. He lived a beautiful life. (08.14.2012 02:22pm)
213) Meredith J: I'm so very sorry to hear of you family's loss... there's not alot you can say to a person who has lost such a special person. It brings tears to my eyes reading your post., it was inspirational to see you looking at this with such a positive outlook. I'm glad you had such a wonderful relationship with him, may he rest in Peace. (08.14.2012 02:23pm)
214) Katie L: My heart and thoughts are with your family. (08.14.2012 02:28pm)
215) Kara: I'm sorry to hear your sad news, Katie. I just started reading your blog recently, and your posts have been endlessly helpful as I prepare to get married next month. Just wanted to let you know that I'll be thinking of you and your family during this difficult time. (08.14.2012 02:30pm)
216) Karen: I am so very sorry for your loss. You can see from his pictures what a loving and lovable man your father was. His love for his family shines through in all the pictures. (08.14.2012 02:42pm)
217) Becca: Oh, Katie...my heart is hurting for you. What a quandary--to be stuck in between sorrow and joy. I am so grateful you all left nothing unsaid, even though you had no idea of what was coming your way. Praying for all of you as you move into this next season of your lives. Thank you for sharing your life with us on this blog. (08.14.2012 02:42pm)
218) Emily: Katie, my heart is so sad for you and your family. But I know the comfort of knowing there will be reunion again! Prayers and thoughts are with you all through this! (08.14.2012 02:48pm)
219) Mollie | Jennings Brae Bank Farm: What a beautifully written tribute to your dad. Many thoughts will be with you and your family in the time to come. (08.14.2012 02:50pm)
220) Susan S: I am so sorry for your loss Katie. I do pray that your mother is finding comfort in the smiles of your beautiful children. I pray that your sister finds strength during this time. And I pray that you and Chris can smile and wink at each other at the end of the very exhausting days that you are enduring right now. Your father's smile has always been obvious of the joy that he gave to those around him (08.14.2012 03:00pm)
221) Heather: A beautiful and moving tribute to your wonderful Dad. The thing that strikes me is how happy he is in all of your photos, and how happy your family look with him too. He clearly loved you all very much and that love was reciprocated. I'm so dreadfully sorry for your loss and you have been in my thoughts continually since I read your tweet yesterday morning. I'm glad that you are able to take comfort for the reasons you have said. Sending much love to you all. xxxxxxxxx Heather (08.14.2012 03:23pm)
222) Adrienne: What a beautiful tribute to your dad! I am so very sorry for your loss. (08.14.2012 03:24pm)
223) Emily Ley: I wish I had all the right words to type to bring a smile to your face. Sending enormous prayers, Katie. God is so good. So good to assure us that JOY is always there in the morning. Rejoicing for your Dad today. With big tears and prayers of thankfulness that God is ever present even when it hurts. Even now. XOXO sweet friend. (08.14.2012 03:27pm)
224) Holly: Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. Your post brought tears to my eyes. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. (08.14.2012 03:28pm)
225) Erica: Katie, I'm so sorry for your loss. Your dad always sounded like an amazing man when you wrote about him on your blog. Hugs and prayers to you and your family. (08.14.2012 03:29pm)
226) Adrienne: What a wonderful way to honor your father. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. (08.14.2012 03:34pm)
227) susie: what a beautiful tribute to your father, i gasped as i sat here reading at work, to hear of your dad's death. i've been reading your blog for almost 2 years and i'm sorry to say this is my first time commenting. i lost my father when i was 15, and reading about what you've had to endure this past week, took me right back. but it also made me wish i knew you, so that i could just reach out an hug you (strange, i know, sorry!!) and offer you comfort, or help in any way. but you are right, finding god's grace in all this is the best way to make grieving easier - the birth of your nephew, the peace of knowing your dad is in heaven waiting for you, the love that was felt within your family - all of that i hope and pray will help you. it's true the saying "it never gets easier, just easier to bear". but i see that as a good thing. it will only get easier from her on out... again i am so sorry,for you and your whole family. and just think, maybe he HAS already met your nephew... just because their earthly bodies have not met, maybe their heavenly souls have?!? (08.14.2012 03:36pm)
228) Cal: Katie, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I have always enjoyed reading about your wonderful family. Its obvious that part of your wonderful marriage was the example that your father set forth for you. I have missed reading the past few days, but please enjoy your time with your family and we will all be waiting for your return. (08.14.2012 03:36pm)
229) Daphne: Katie, I am very sorry to hear of your fathers passing. I cried the whole entire post, your beautiful words washed a wave of emotion over me, the strength of your writing only signifies the love you had for your father. I pray that God and his angels envelop you and your family during this difficult time. Lots of hugs and prayers! (08.14.2012 03:48pm)
230) Grace: Katie, thank you for your strength and faith in sharing this. It touched my heart and brought back memories of my own father's recent passing. Your family will continue to be in my prayers for both the loss and the joy. Love to you all! (08.14.2012 03:56pm)
231) kk: I'm so sorry for your lost..my dad passed away 13 years ago and reading your post made me think of my dad and how much i miss him. Lots of hugss....please stay tight with your family at this time and stop blogging..we can alll wait until you are yourself again and wanting to post. (08.14.2012 04:02pm)
232) vdragon: I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm more of a lurker than a commenter, so you have no clue who I am, but I want you to know that you I'm thinking of you. (08.14.2012 04:05pm)
233) Aileen: Katie, I actually read your post awhile ago but for some reason, couldn't post til now. I've been reading through your archives lately, and I've been learning and laughing a lot. But tonight I am so so sorry for your loss..sounds so meaningless, but true nonetheless. My heart plummeted and ached as I read through your post. I'd catch glimpses of him here and there on your blog (one of your father's day posts especially comes to mind) and think that the world needed more dads like yours. Coming from divorce and remarriage and the untimely death of my biological father personally, I know something about what it takes to be a good dad, and it seems like your dad had all that and then some. Words on a screen are so inadequate, especially coming from a stranger like me but I'll be thinking of you and praying for you and your family. Lots of love and imaginary friend support coming your way, Aileen (08.14.2012 04:11pm)
234) Brody: I am so sorry for your loss. I'm a long-time lurker, but I just had to comment. This is such a lovely and loving tribute to your father, he sounds like a wonderful man. My thoughts are with you and yours. (08.14.2012 04:12pm)
235) Tabs: I'm so so sorry for you and your family's loss. As is your usual fashion, you wrote a beautiful tribute that brought us all in to share in your pain in losing such a wonderful dad, celebration of his going home to be with his heavenly Father, and excitment for what the future brings to your family by way of sweet babies. Your family is most assuradly in my family's prayers. And when my daddy gets here with my baby I will give him a hug and tell him how much I love him and appreciate his role as my dad and my sons grandpa. (08.14.2012 04:20pm)
236) Sonan: I lost my father last year; I was in the US and he passed away in India-hang in there and reflect back on the happy memories. (08.14.2012 04:23pm)
237) Chloe: Oh Katie, I'm so sorry for the loss for you and your family. I will be saying prayers for you. I was reading this at work and had to go hide for a while while I cried. I hope one day when my daddy leaves I will have the faith and peace that you have. I am so sorry for your loss. And when you meet again in heaven. '..He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away'. (08.14.2012 04:26pm)
238) Megan Scrivner: I've been a longtime reader, but rarely comment. I still feel as though you are a friend & I hate that you & your family are going through this. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. You & your family are in my prayers. Much love from GA. (08.14.2012 04:35pm)
239) Sarah663: Katie, I'm so sorry. Prayers going up for you and yours. (08.14.2012 04:39pm)
240) Katie: I'm so sorry for your loss, but what an amazing thing to be able to go home and have your Savior say to you, "Well done good and faithful servant!" My thoughts and prayers are with your family! (08.14.2012 04:52pm)
241) Brooke: I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers will be with your family during this difficult time. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I'm so impressed with your ability to handle this with such dignity and grace. (08.14.2012 05:04pm)
242) Joke: Katie, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad. Your tribute to him only convinces me that you were all so lucky to have known him and I hope you and your family find strength in each other and in his memory, as well as in Ginny's baby. I was born 3 weeks after my grandfather died, I got his first name as a middle name. I'm sure your father will be a proud granddad to the baby from up there... Thinking of you and your family! (08.14.2012 05:06pm)
243) celeste: I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family. (08.14.2012 05:07pm)
244) Diane: Katoe, Chris, Michael, Gracie, Ginny, John Michael, Mom (sorry! I ident know her real name!) I am so sorry for you loss. I will keep each of you in my prayers. I hope you all take comfort in the hundreds of people commenting and keeping you in a virtual hug, and the thousands who are not commenting, and still keeping you in a virtual hug. (08.14.2012 05:11pm)
245) Kristin F.: I am so sorry for your loss, Katie. My prayers go out to you and your family. (08.14.2012 05:17pm)
246) Emily: Another longtime reader but rare commenter here saying I'm so sorry for your loss. (08.14.2012 05:37pm)
247) Lauren G: My heart and prayers go out to you and your family. I can't imagine what you are going through. Thank you for your honesty and your wonderful perspective. I have always enjoyed reading about your dad, I will miss getting to see him through your eyes. (08.14.2012 05:58pm)
248) Ellen: My heart and prayers go out to you and your family at this time. Your post brought tears to my eyes. What a wonderful reminder to leave no words unspoken with my dad. I'm sorry for your loss. (08.14.2012 06:01pm)
249) Vina: Katie I have been reading your blog all the way in Australia since the start. I feel like I know your family and friends like they are my own. I loved seeing pictures of your dad and your mum playing with the kids, it reminds me of my parents with my kids. I'm sure your dad will be looking down on all of you. (08.14.2012 06:15pm)
250) Sara M: How you were able to write this great post about your dad at such a heartbreaking time for you, I have no idea. I've been reading you almost from the start and know how important a role your dad played in your family. I am so so sorry for your loss. (08.14.2012 06:21pm)
251) Meredith H.: Katie, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It's so hardto lose a parent (lost mymom to cancer 9 years ago). Your writing about him, wow... Just amazing. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. (08.14.2012 06:26pm)
252) Jen: My deepest sympathy to your entire family including ginny and your mom! I do not think I could write such a beautiful post just days after a passing. You are an amazing person (08.14.2012 06:34pm)
253) Natty: Katie, my prayers are with you and your family. May God wrap you and your family tight in His loving arms and bring you comfort and peace. Your loving words of tribute to your dad are a testament to the strong love and grace that abides in your family. (08.14.2012 06:35pm)
254) Kara J: I am so sorry for the loss you have experienced, and the grief your family must feel. May your faith bring your comfort, and your loved ones surround you. (08.14.2012 06:47pm)
255) Sue C: My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. Your post is an amazing tribute to your dad. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. (08.14.2012 06:51pm)
256) HeatherM: Katie, My heart breaks for you and your family. From all of your pictures and stories over the year it is clear that your dad was such a vibrant and strong soul. And it is clear that your whole family cherished him like the previous gift he was. Your words about not leaving things unspoken resonate with me in your story. My dad and I were always close, but we had a falling out a year and a half ago, and have not spoken since. I have been ready to forgive him for a long time- but we have been busy and time has just gotten away from us. Needless to say we have much unspoken, and your story makes me resolve to do something about that. (08.14.2012 06:58pm)
257) Nicole: I'm so sorry for your loss, Katie. He sounds like a wonderful man, and he's left his enduring mark with his children and grandchildren. Blessings and prayers to you all. (08.14.2012 07:00pm)
258) Anne H: I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts go out to you, your sister and mom- and the rest of the family. I lost my dad at a relatively young age, so I can imagine, if only a little bit. http://onebigapple.wordpress.com/2011/07/03/papa/ All the best and strength to you Anne (08.14.2012 07:16pm)
259) Angela C: Katie, this post about your dad is so beautiful it made me cry. I'm so sorry to read of his passing, and am lifting you all up in prayer as you deal with this difficult time. Virtual hugs on their way! (08.14.2012 07:23pm)
260) Em: What a wonderful man with so, so much love in his life. This is a beautiful post. Strength and love to you and your family. (08.14.2012 07:27pm)
261) Merri: I'm sorry for the pain you are going through yet happy that you have the comfort you do. And just maybe your dad will get to send your nephew off with a hug and one of his big smiles. (08.14.2012 07:40pm)
262) Amy: Katie, I'm so sorry for you loss and an praying for strength for you and your family. Thank you for such a beautiful post. (08.14.2012 07:57pm)
263) ellie: I may only be one of your imaginary friends but I wanted you to know that you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts. What a heartbreaking time for you all. (08.14.2012 08:15pm)
264) Betty & Darren: Dearest Katie, Your Grandma Louise wrote and kept me in the loop and I cried. Yes, most importantly how your Dad had touched our lives too during our short visit to USA. Thank you for sharing the abundance of love and joy in your family and I felt it right here across the miles. Thinking of all and keep in touch Katie. Luv Betty & Darren Singapore (08.14.2012 08:35pm)
265) Kris: Katie, I think this is one of the most beautiful posts you have ever written. I'm so very sorry for your loss. When my grandma passed away, I was taking a college comp class, somehow I came across W.H. Audens poem, Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone. I especially liked the line "He was my North, my South, my East, my West." From all your posts about your dad, it's evident what a great man he was and how much he loved his family. Someday, your kids will love this record you have of him. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. (08.14.2012 08:38pm)
266) Natalie: I am so sorry to read of your dad's passing. My dad passed away in March and I understand how difficult it is to lose your father when you yourself (and your sister) are so young. It almost seems unfair that such an important person should be taken from you when others your age still have their fathers and often take them for granted. Your words about faith and not leaving things unsaid are so very important and are the facts that will make the coming months more bearable. I will keep you in my prayers, and just hold on to the love and the memories. (08.14.2012 08:38pm)
267) susan: I too, was in tears reading this. Such a sweet and thoughtful tribute to your dad, who was obviously such a wonderful person. My dad just passed away this past year so unfortunately I also know what it's like to lose a parent so young (I'm 30). Thinking of you and your family. (08.14.2012 08:49pm)
268) Kathie: Oh Katie. I'm crying. Balling actually. I have read your blog since before Bean was born, and have been through your ups and downs with you. I am so sorry for the loss of your father; for the pain you and your family must be feeling. And while it's hard to know that he's not here anymore, it's comforting to know that he's with our Lord and savior. Thank you for sharing your dad with us. Thank you for sharing your family stories. If in some sense, it brings us all closer in this time of need. I'll be praying for you. Much love. ~Kathie (08.14.2012 08:50pm)
269) Laura: So many prayers for you and your family Katie - my heart is breaking for you all. What a beautiful tribute and reminder about the things for which we should constantly give thanks. (08.14.2012 08:55pm)
270) Missy: May your heavy hearts find peace You're in my thoughts. I'm so sorry. (08.14.2012 09:03pm)
271) La.: Katie, I'm so sorry. I'm sending prayers your way. I teared up while reading this; it was so well written. You could feel and see the love between your Dad and your family. (08.14.2012 09:17pm)
272) Hannah: Katie, I am so sorry for your loss. It brought me to tears reading about your dad. Ginny's baby truly will be a blessing to your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. (08.14.2012 09:39pm)
273) Juli: Beautiful post-know we're all keeping you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. (08.14.2012 09:44pm)
274) Jenna: Katie, you and your whole family have been on my heart since I read about your dad, and you will continue to be on my heart in the coming days and weeks. Thank you for sharing your family with us. I'm sending love your way. (08.14.2012 09:49pm)
275) Amanda: My heart goes out to you and your family, Katie. You will all be in my prayers. God bless. (08.14.2012 09:51pm)
276) Hilary: What an amazing and uplifting tribute to your father in the midst of such heartbreak. To think that your family will soon be celebrating again makes me wonder at the divine wisdom of the Lord's perfect timing - in life and death. God bless you and your family. You are in our prayers. (08.14.2012 10:05pm)
277) Arielle: What a wonderful tribute to what seems like a wonderful husband, father, grandfather, and human being in general. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this hard time. (08.14.2012 10:09pm)
278) Tori: I have been a long time reader, but this is the first time I have ever commented. You have a truly amazing family with an even more amazing bond. I loved this post so much it brought me to tears (of happiness and great sadness). I used to work with your mom and always loved the stories she would tell of your whole family. May the many wonderful memories of your father surround you and give you comfort during this difficult time. I only met your father one time but he sure did light up a room! He was an amazing man! (08.14.2012 10:09pm)
279) Katie B.: I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. (08.14.2012 10:28pm)
280) Corinn: It took me a long time, and many attempts, to read through this post without bawling the whole time. I have already commented on FB & instagram but wanted to say again how deeply sorry I am for your loss. This post was beautifully written and you could see the love and happiness your dad had spilling out in each picture. When I first heard of your dad's passing the other day my first thought was, "Oh, I hope he was golfing or doing something he loved." My deepest sympathy & prayers for you all. xx (08.14.2012 10:32pm)
281) Katie B: My heart is absolutely broken for you right now. I cried my way through this post. Your dad sounds like he was an amazing man. You're passing his wonderful legacy down from him through to your children. It's such a blessing that you all got to talk to your dad that day. I'm thankful for that for you. It's a good reminder to me that I need to make sure people know how much I love them. My Father-in-law (the closest thing I'd ever had to a dad) passed away a year ago and I'm still reeling from it. I can't imagine how you're all muddling through even though I can very vividly remember how hard it was. Ginny's baby will definitely be another blessing. But I know first-hand too that it'll be bittersweet. I had a baby in June and we named her Alanna after her Granddaddy Alan. Almost every day I think about how much I wish my FIL could have met, held and loved on this new little angel. My prayers will be with you and your family for peace, for comfort, for healing and for God to move in your lives in a HUGE way. (08.14.2012 10:41pm)
282) ashley: oh katie! I'm crying reading this! I am so sorry for you and your family! But despite the heart break, we can rejoice that your dad is with our Heavenly Father! So glad that you all got to talk to him, and that he had spent the day doing something he loved. My prayers are with you and your family, and particularly Ginny in this difficult time! (08.14.2012 10:58pm)
283) Carla: Oh dear. What a sad time for you. I am so very sorry for your family. I will keep all of you in my prayers. (08.14.2012 11:16pm)
284) Kristin: After years of reading your blog, it feels as though I know you and your family. This post had me in tears, I can't imagine how you and your family are feeling. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please know that many thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. (08.14.2012 11:20pm)
285) Linda: Oh Katie. I am speechless. Your post was an amazing testimony to a wonderful man who brought up a daughter who learned how to live and love the one life she gets with gratitude. Sending really heartfelt prayers to you with a heavy heart for you and your family- thank you for sharing your heart with us. We really love you for that & it makes a difference in so many lives you'll never know. (08.14.2012 11:37pm)
286) Michaela: I'm so sorry for your loss. Your post was such a loving tribute to your father, who sounds like a wonderful man. Thinking of you and your family right now... (08.14.2012 11:44pm)
287) Sara in VA: Katie and family - So sorry for your loss. May you find peace and joy in your memories. With sympathy. (08.15.2012 12:05am)
288) Anna: What a beautifully written memorial. I am so sorry for your loss and for the pain and suffering you and your family are going for. My thoughts are with you and may you continue to be comforted by the memories of the wonderful times you and your children have had with your father. (08.15.2012 12:21am)
289) Vikki: Katie, that was a fantastic, beautifully written tribute to your father and his too soon passing. Although Ginny's baby won't physically know his grandpa, I am sure he will know how special he was and how much he loved all of his grandbabies. Your ending sentence "I love how even in his death he teaches me to be a better person" brings tears to my eyes...not everyone can say that. I am so sorry for your loss of such a great man. (08.15.2012 12:56am)
290) Alex: Oh Katie, I am so sorry. I admire your faith and I hope it continues to buoy you up. (08.15.2012 01:16am)
291) Catherine: Katie, I have read your blog for years and never commented. I was stunned to read this post today. It was beautifully written and a wonderful tribute to a great man. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family. (08.15.2012 02:01am)
292) Katy: I'm so sorry for your loss Katie. (08.15.2012 04:23am)
293) abi: Your father sounds like he was an amazing man and I know you all are going to miss him a lot. So sorry for your loss. (08.15.2012 04:42am)
294) Ashley: I am so sorry. I lost my dad suddenly when I was in college, and nothing prepares you for it. The only thing to do is hold on to your faith. (08.15.2012 04:45am)
295) Mary: Your dad sounds like a wonderful man and I am sorry for your loss. I hope that you and your family will continue to feel his love as you remember his days on our earth. (08.15.2012 05:17am)
296) Joyce: I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my own dad when my girls were 2 and 4 and understand the ache of knowing what they'll miss. Cherish your sweet memories and know that time offers the gift of healing. I will be thinking of you and your family as you grieve, and for your mom especially as she moves into a future so different than what she'd planned. (08.15.2012 07:16am)
297) Carrie: So sorry!!! Prayers for all of you! (08.15.2012 07:47am)
298) Kayo: Prayers lifted up for you and your family. What a sweet blessing the new baby will be to your family. (08.15.2012 07:56am)
299) Kris H.: I am sitting here in tears as my heart grieves for the loss of your father. I am so very sorry. Dads are so special....I am glad that you have the joy of knowing he is with the Lord but I also know that his passing will leave a huge empty spot. May God give you much peace and healing in the days to come. My thoughts are with you and your family. (08.15.2012 08:21am)
300) Peggy: May your faith, family and friends be with you now and in the difficult days ahead and may fond memories of times together keep your Dad in your heart,mind and spirit always--- with sincerest sympathies. (08.15.2012 08:42am)
301) Elizabeth R: Katie, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. From all the times you have talked about your dad on this blog, I could tell that he was an amazing man that loved his family. He is definitely leaving a legacy in his two daughters and grandkids. Praying for your family during this difficult time and that you can find peace that he is in the presence of his Lord and that you will see him again. (08.15.2012 09:58am)
302) Erin: Katie, my heart and prayers are with you, your family, and all of your Dad's friends. I know we don't know each other "in real life," but the way you share your life with us on your blog makes me feel as if you're my friend, and I cried real tears as I read this post. My heart breaks for your loss, but soars thinking of the life your dad lived and the beautiful family he's left behind. Your faith and love are obviously so strong, I hope they are a comfort to you. And good luck to Ginny as she welcomes her new little one soon! I'm sure it will be difficult in some ways without your dad there to celebrate with you all, but as you know, he'll have the best view of all looking down from heaven. (08.15.2012 09:58am)
303) Mary: Katie - I'm a long time reader but seldom comment. I'm crying at work reading this. You and your family are in my prayers. My mother died unexpectedly two years ago, I did not make it to the hospital in time, next week would be her 52nd birthday. I know the pain you are feeling, and I know that all of the words I could type wouldn't even chip at the sadness. Knowing there was nothing unsaid will be a comfort in the months and years to come. Again, you are all in my prayers. (08.15.2012 10:31am)
304) Ruth: I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you can be comforted by your father's memories. (08.15.2012 10:47am)
305) Jennifer: Katie, I have been thinking of you, your family, and your mom and sister since I heard your news. I am so sorry for your loss - my heart breaks for you guys. I am inspired by your faith. Your family is in my prayers, both for your loss and for Ginny as her baby is born. (08.15.2012 11:32am)
306) momiss: Katie, I am so very sorry for your loss. I know what it is to lose a parent. The only comfort there is, is in knowing that your dad is most certainly with our Lord right now. Your family is my thoughts and prayers. (08.15.2012 12:18pm)
307) Keri: your dad was obviously an amazing husband, father and grandfather. I am so sorry for your loss - I'm sure he so wanted to meet his newest grandson as well. Though, your dad lives on through all of his grandchildren. Your post and your outlook is remarkable. Obviously, your dad raised some strong women. Our thoughts are with you. (08.15.2012 12:33pm)
308) Michelle: I have never met you but have become very fond of your lovely family through your blog.As others have said I cried from the start to the finish of your post.My heart breaks for all of you.May you be comforted by your memories (08.15.2012 12:35pm)
309) Jennifer: My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I am so sorry about your Dad's passing. What an amazing family he has to watch over! And for your family to be watched over by an amazing man! And I believe Ginny's baby was greeted first by his Grandfather. (08.15.2012 01:47pm)
310) Christy: I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending warm thoughts your way. (08.15.2012 02:06pm)
311) Suzanne: So very hard to lose a parent. I lost both of mine unexpectedly and suddenly. Now 4 years later I still long to pick up the phone and dial my Mom's number just to hear her say "Hi Sweetie".So sorry for your heartache. (08.15.2012 02:16pm)
312) PK: I'm so sorry, Katie. My heart is breaking for you and your family. While I know you will all get through this and enjoy many happy memories, I know you still miss him. Hugs to all of you. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. (08.15.2012 02:57pm)
313) Sarah: I am so very sorry for your loss. As other people have written, after years of following your blog, I feel like your family are my friends so I cried as I read this. My heart goes out to you and your beautiful family, especially Ginny as I know it must be so difficult for her to not be able to be with you and your mom right now. You will all be in my prayers. (08.15.2012 02:59pm)
314) Ariel: Katie, I am so sorry to read of your loss. I hope that your family and your faith continue to comfort you during this time, and in the future. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. (08.15.2012 03:01pm)
315) Kim T: Katie, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Hang in there. Hard times will sneak up on you. I'm so glad you have such a close knit family to support each other in the coming weeks and months. (08.15.2012 03:57pm)
316) Julie S.: I am so, so sorry to hear of this unexpected loss. Sending prayers and loving thoughts to you. (08.15.2012 04:28pm)
317) Scott: My wife reads your blog and occasionally forwards me entries that are prevalent or contain things that she thinks are good for me to read, which are usually about your kids. We are new parents and she finds your blog and a lot of the comments very helpful for us. I took the chance of looking around today and saw this post about your dad. I just want to say how sorry I am for your loss, but I'm happy that he left nothing unsaid while he was here. That is a lesson that too many people choose not to learn, and it is something that I will make sure happens with our little family. Its hard to lose someone so important and meaningful, but as followers of Jesus, it is comforting to know where he is now. I'm pretty sure that the first words he heard from God were, "Well done my good and faithful one, Well done!" May the peace and love of Jesus be with you and your family as you go through this. (08.15.2012 04:48pm)
318) Megan: So sorry for your loss Katie, and yet so beautiful to hear about the life of your father. What a blessing to be able to write those things about him. Your family will be in my prayers. (08.15.2012 05:22pm)
319) Becky: ....I was not expecting to read that but I'm sure not as unexpected as your sudden loss. I have no words of any use except for my heart pinched when I read your words and sadness filled my eyes as I listened to your voice internally reading your calm words of faith and love. Your family are beautiful and I'm so sorry for you all that your lovely dad has gone. Love to you all. X (08.15.2012 05:46pm)
320) Sarah: Love to you and your family. It's amazing and inspiring to hear your steadfast faith. Prayers for you and your family. (08.15.2012 07:20pm)
321) Ashley @ According to Ashley: Such a lovely post. I am absolutely in shock. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll keep your family in my thoughts! (08.15.2012 07:30pm)
322) Rebecca: What a beautiful post. I am so sorry for your family's loss, you are all in my heart and prayers. (08.15.2012 07:48pm)
323) Beth: Oh katie, this is certainly not what I expected when I logged on and tears are streaming down my face for you and the entire family. my thoughts and prayers are with you right now, sending you all my love. I am so sad for you but am also rejoicing that your dad is home with his and our Heavenly Father. xoxoxo (08.15.2012 07:49pm)
324) Kaite W: Sending lots of thoughts and prayers to your sweet family during this difficult time. (08.15.2012 08:23pm)
325) Jennie D: Katie, I am sending many, many prayers for you and your family. There are no words other than I am praying for you all. God Bless. (08.15.2012 08:44pm)
326) A Few Things…. « Life in the Slow Lane: [...] When I read Katie’s post on Marriage Confessions about her Dad passing away I bawled like a baby. Isn’t it weird how all us bloggers and [...] (08.15.2012 08:47pm)
327) Erin: Katie, I'm so very sorry for your loss, I can't even imagine how hard this is for everyone. I want you to know that I am thinking of you and praying for everyone in your family. (08.15.2012 08:48pm)
328) Laurie: The words, I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss don't seem like nearly enough. My heart is broken for your family. I adore that picture of Gracie looking up at him. You are so blessed to have so many wonderful pictures and memories. My thoughts are with your family. SO very sorry. (08.15.2012 09:02pm)
329) Haley B: Thought and prayers go out to you and your family during this tough time! What always gets me through is knowing that God has a reason for what he does, and we just have to accept that even in times when it sucks! (08.15.2012 09:10pm)
330) Suz McA: oh dear, imaginary friend, my heart breaks for you. i am praying for comfort and especially rest for you & your family tonight as i read this (a little late). that you will know the promises in matthew 11:28-30 to be true: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest in your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (08.15.2012 09:21pm)
331) Stacey: You and your family are in my prayers. I'm sorry for your loss. (08.15.2012 09:37pm)
332) A Long Far View: I'm so very sorry for your loss. I've been thinking about you and your family a lot since you first shared this. (08.15.2012 09:41pm)
333) Denae: I am so deeply sorry for your loss and I will keep you and your family in my prayers. (08.15.2012 11:22pm)
334) Molly: Oh I'm crying for you. I'm so so so sorry for this huge loss. A big virtual hug to you and your family. (08.16.2012 09:59am)
335) Lindsay: Oh Katie, I'm so sorry. So very sorry for your loss. I'm thinking about you and your family in this time of both grief and celebration, and hoping for some peace for you. (08.16.2012 10:05am)
336) Mike: The souls of the righteous are in the hand of God, and no torment shall touch them. They seemed, in the view of the foolish, to be dead; and their passing away was thought an affliction and their going forth from us, utter destruction. But they are in peace. For if to others, indeed, they seem punished, yet is their hope full of immortality; Chastised a little, they shall be greatly blessed, because God tried them and found them worthy of himself. As gold in the furnace, God proved them, and as sacrificial offerings God took them to himself. In the time of their judgment they shall shine and dart about as sparks through stubble; They shall judge nations and rule over peoples, and the LORD shall be their King forever Those who trust in him shall understand truth, and the faithful shall abide with him in love: Because grace and mercy are with his holy ones, and his care is with the elect. (08.16.2012 12:35pm)
337) Jaclyn Armstrong: Such a beautifully written post. Your words and pride in your father gave me chills. I am so deeply sorry for your loss. (08.16.2012 01:24pm)
338) Snarky Mommy: Oh Katie, I am SO SORRY. I know that doesn't make it better, but I am. I hope your family -- and especially Ginny -- can find peace in the next few days. (08.16.2012 07:32pm)
339) Amy: Even I love your Dad. His obvious strength and adoration for his family shone through the pages of your blog. It was so beautiful to see. I'll be praying for God's hand over your family in this time of sadness. (08.16.2012 08:07pm)
340) Jen at Cabin Fever: Oh Katie, I am beyond sorry. I haven't been to your blog in a long time and just came back to see tragic happening. No words will heal the pain that losing a father brings, but know that your faith, family, and friends (all of which you have in abundance) will help. Your strength is evident in your post and your father I am sure is proudly looking down on you. -Jen (08.16.2012 08:20pm)
341) Lara: It's been a really hard couple of years for my family with my dad and no one is allowed to really talk about it. My whole pregnancy, my dad was suffering - withering away in his age with sickness and depression. It was bad. Then, Ari became a Christian and my dad saw the light. He was baptized this past April. What a miracle. But, his health remains poor and he's nearing his 77th birthday in two weeks and we rarely talk. I feel compelled to spill my heart beans here in your comment section for some reason... well for A reason. You. Your heart. Your dad. His life. Reading this has me in tears, thinking about all the love I need to keep giving even if I think it's "hopeless" at times. Thank you. God bless you, Katie. You've helped me through some of my hardest times without even knowing it. Your sweet words or encouragement, the books you sent, the care package and card - all divine timing. I love you and am praying for you during this time of celebrating your amazing father's life. God is good. (08.16.2012 09:56pm)
342) Jenny: Katie and family, I am so sorry for your loss. I've been away and hadn't seen this til this morning. I'm so sorry, but you will have an even greater blessing when Ginny and JM's baby boy comes along. Hug each other, and know that the internet is thinking about you. (08.18.2012 10:13am)
343) Christina: I'm so sorry for your loss. I admire your faith during this and hope you are doing better. You seem like such a sweet person and I really enjoy your blog. (08.18.2012 10:45am)
344) yen: Tears came to my eyes as I was reading this beautiful, full of love post. I pray for much comfort and grace to you and the whole family. (08.18.2012 01:03pm)
345) Cynthia: I'm so sorry for your loss. In my heart and mind I'm with you. I know how hard to lose a loved one. My grandpa who was like a father for me had 5 heart attacks. I was in college when my mom called me. The pain will be lighter but will never go away. (08.18.2012 02:35pm)
346) Vicky: There's no bond like the one between a dad and a daughter. That last picture you included of him is wonderful. You have his smile and his spirit. He's in heaven now and my prayers are with you and your loved ones. Vicky in Raleigh, NC (08.19.2012 12:40am)
347) Lydia Schmitt: Katie, I am so sorry. We have been on vacation away from the Internet, and I am so heartbroken to just now read this. I have been reading your blog for more than a year now and it feels like you are a friend and to know that you are experiencing this really burdens my heart. I will be praying for you and your family. May God continue to grant you peace that surpasses all understanding. God bless. (08.20.2012 10:01am)
348) Sheri: As your blog reader of 3 years, in a strange way I feel so connected to your family as if I know them all in person. I am so sad to hear of your dad's passing, I've seen how great he is with your kids. For now, God loves him more & He knows best. Katie, hang tough.. my condolences to your family & congratulations upon your sister's delivery.. You are blessed to have such a wonderful family. (08.20.2012 02:03pm)
349) Jessica: I have been on vacation and am just now catching up to your posts. I am caught up now and am filled with grief for you and your sweet family. Your posts are so eloquent and I am sure that your father is very proud of you. I am so impressed with your grace and how you handled Michael's grief. You are an internet inspiration. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Best of luck to your sister and congrats on her new baby to be! (08.20.2012 08:19pm)
350) Calypso: Hugs and kisses from Texas.. MANY HUGS AND KISSES from our family to yours. Sometimes.. there are just no words.. (08.20.2012 10:45pm)
351) Janet: I cannot imgine the loss or pain... Your father was exactly the same age as my dad is today and losing my father is something I cannot even think about withut falling apart. I am sending you my love and support. Your father was so fortunate to have you as his daughter. xo (08.21.2012 12:48pm)
352) Rachel @ The Ongoing Planner: Katie I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds a lot like my dad and I know you will miss him terribly. I am so glad you have such a supportive family to help each other through this. My heart also goes out to Ginny since she couldn't be as involved in person, which I am sure if hard for her (but very excited for you to be an aunt soon!) Sorry this is delayed, but always thinking of you! (08.22.2012 11:20pm)
353) Jess: I breaks my heart to read this. May the Lord lay his hands on your family as you deal with this difficult time. He will surely take good care of your father. Will be keeping your family in my prayers! (08.28.2012 08:22pm)
354) Blooming | Marriage Confessions Blooming | Laugh. Fight. Stay Married.: [...] a little out of sorts, for obvious reasons, I guess. It has really been bothering me, though. My dad passed away the week before classes started, which was the week of pre-planning for teachers. That is the week [...] (09.19.2012 09:44pm)