#OneWord2013

#OneWord2013

If you’ve been around here for long, you know that I write occasionally for Southern Weddings Magazine. I write for them not only because they produce a beautiful wedding magazine which focuses on more than just a wedding day, but mostly because their staff of strong, faithful women inspire me to be better. I first became connected with SW through the owner and editor, Lara Casey. Lara and I actually went to the same high school, though she was a few years ahead of me. I didn’t know her personally….

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Happiness and the Rearview Mirror

Happiness and the Rearview Mirror

Ever since Chris started graduate school at Yale, I’ve had this sticker on the back of my car. It’s a simple sticker that says, “Yale University.” At first, it was a badge of honor because I thought it was so cool to actually know someone who went to Yale. After the novelty of the school wore off, I kept it on my car because I was so proud of Chris for what he had accomplished. When he graduated and started working in New York, we kept our connection to Yale…

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Costa Rica Bound!

Costa Rica Bound!

I get asked a lot about the trip to Costa Rica that Chris and I are taking at the end of March. We were recipients of the “Gift of Happiness,” which is an eight-day stay in Costa Rica at beautiful hotels, doing adventurous activities, in exotic locations. Sounds pretty darn happy to me. But whenever people would ask me about it, I sort of avoided the topic. There were two reasons. First, there was this tiiiiiiiny little problem with my passport. Like, the fact that I didn’t have one. Years…

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Brutally Honest Marriage

Brutally Honest Marriage

I don’t like to be told what to do. (Who does, really?) And if that something that I need to do involves making a change in myself? Well then, whoever is brave enough to tell me to my face had better be wearing a helmet and a sports cup. Just about the only people in the world that I can take direct criticism from are Chris and my sister. Ginny keeps me in check when I’m being stupid or immature. She tells me to get over things, grow up, and…

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We Are There

We Are There

During one of the busiest points of grad school at Yale for Chris, he came home one night to find a hearty, home cooked meal: Chinese take out. We ate at our tiny kitchen table together while he told me about how stressful grad school was, about how he wasn’t sure he could make it through, and about how sometimes he just wanted to give up. I sat with him, listening, holding his hand, and trying to find the right words to help him through, but in the end, it…

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Depression, Anxiety, and Faith

Depression, Anxiety, and Faith

This past year I struggled with a bout of depression. It feels so dramatic to say that. I feel like I had a cold, but I am going around saying, “I overcame a very intense respiratory virus.” Yeah, lady.  It’s called a cold.  We’ve all had ’em. But drama or no drama, severe or not severe, cold or respiratory virus, it is what it is.  I struggled with depression after all the changes my family experienced during our move.  I spoke with my minister during that period and she, very…

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State of My Union: Year Six

State of My Union: Year Six

This past Saturday, Chris and I celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary. Ironically enough, we were attending a friend’s wedding on Saturday and as the ceremony unfolded, I found myself looking at the bride and groom and feeling slightly jealous at the adventure that they are about to embark on. You’re only newlyweds once. But then I looked over to where Chris stood with the rest of the groomsmen and, as I did, he looked out into the crowd and found me at that exact same moment. We smiled at each…

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How to Procrastinate

How to Procrastinate

I am an excellent procrastinator. Really. I’m exceptional at procrastination. I have the ability to choose when I will procrastinate. I think that’s my key to success. Most people who are procrastinators procrastinate everything. They buy birthday cards to mail the day of the person’s birthday. They stand in line at H&R Block on April 14. They take the trash out at 4:30am on trash day. They procrastinate in every area of their lives. Not me. I’m above all that nonsense. I have the amazing ability to choose only the…

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The Postpartum Me

The Postpartum Me

Last year, I went through a few really rough months as we transitioned from our life in Connecticut to our new life in Florida. During that time, it was actually Chris who first noticed the signs of depression in me and who encouraged me to talk to my doctor, my family, and my minister about how I was feeling. Through talking about it, and even through blogging about it, I started recognizing those signs in myself and really paid attention to what was making me feel so low. For me,…

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Blessed to Be a Blessing

Blessed to Be a Blessing

The thing about depression, even seemingly mild bouts of it like I went through, is that the only way to bring yourself out of it is to put yourself first.  And that takes a lot of time and energy.  When I finally came to terms with the fact that earlier this year wasn’t just tough because of our move, or my unemployment, or our loss of income, or our unexpected pregnancy, but that I was really dealing with far greater emotional issues, the only solution was to simply shut down…

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