Just Wait and See…

Just Wait and See…

Once upon a time, there lived a boy and a girl who loved each other at a very young age. They loved each other so much that the boy asked the girl to be his wife, and she said yes. Even though neither of them knew the first thing about being a husband or a wife. “They’re too young!” the townspeople cried. “It’s too hard to be married when you’re too young!” But the boy and the girl just held hands and walked down the aisle like stupid, young people…

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Swift Kick in the Rear

Swift Kick in the Rear

I can’t remember a time when my life has been this orderly.  For the past two weeks, I get to work early like always, ready to tackle my to-do list, but I end up sitting there trying to come up with a to-do list.  When I come home, I get dinner going and then begin to look around for the chores that always need to be done, and I find there’s just not that much to do.  It’s the first time I can ever remember being this caught up both…

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Intentional Nothingness

Intentional Nothingness

Last week, Chris and I got into a big fight. We argue from time to time, like most couples, but we don’t really do the knock-down-drag-out fighting very often. And this was one of those times.  It was one of those all-consuming fights that covers a range of things we’d both been mad about for a couple weeks. I call those housekeeping fights. It’s like spring cleaning. Sometimes, you just need to crawl up into those dark, cobwebby corners of your marriage and throw some windows open to air things…

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My Husband’s Rut

My Husband’s Rut

One of my favorite characteristics in Chris is that he is unshakable.  Unstoppable.  Unflappable.  You know that phrase, “He takes a lickin’ and keeps on tickin’?”  They basically wrote that about Chris.  There hasn’t been any challenge I’ve seen him face that he hasn’t been able to rise to, take on, and move forward as a better person.  And usually, he does this while bringing his family to a better place, too.  He’s just that kind of person.  He believes in success and he believes that he can be successful…

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Vignettes of My Husband

Vignettes of My Husband

One time when he was in grad school, Chris was working on this show that was designed by Maurice Sendak (author of Where the Wild Things Are).  This show had a woman dressed in a giant chicken costume who was flying over the stage.  Chris was the one who was controlling her from backstage and he was supposed to land her on certain parts of the set throughout the show.  There was a video camera set up out front with a monitor that he could see backstage and so he…

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Things Parents Say

Things Parents Say

Chris and I have been together a long time. At the end of April, it will be 12 years total together and in June it will be our sixth wedding anniversary. In that period of time, we’ve said a lot of things to each other. I’m proud and happy that if you tallied it up, we’ve probably said, “I love you” more than anything else over the years. Not all couples can say that. So, that’s a good thing. On the flip side, we’ve probably said almost just as often,…

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Who’s Paying for This Kid?

Who’s Paying for This Kid?

First, I’m going to apologize to those of you who tune in to my blog for things other than childbearing and child-rearing because those seem to be the hot topics here lately. But I can’t help it. Not only do I have baby on the brain, not only is it impacting my marriage, not only does it consume all my thoughts right now, but it seems like everyone I know is either pregnant or, more commonly, thinking about starting a family. Chris and I were married at the age of…

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Why I Chose Not to Breastfeed

Why I Chose Not to Breastfeed

I blogged about our decision to not breastfeed when I was pregnant with Bean and I hated doing it then. Just like I hate doing it now. Man, do I avoid this topic like the plague. There’s so much judgment and advice and controversy around it that it makes me want to just hide in a hole. But I chose to blog about it before and I’m choosing to blog about it again because I feel like any educated decision you make as a parent is a good decision, whether…

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After All These Years

After All These Years

Did you know Chris is a music fanatic?  Well, he is.  He loves all music.  He appreciates the artistry.  He isn’t musical himself, but he understands it.  He gets music in ways that most people just don’t.  He hears things that I don’t hear when music plays. And so a couple years ago, it didn’t surprise me at all when he came home with an old record player he found on eBay.  He thinks that music sounds better on albums.  “It’s the way you’re supposed to hear it,” he says. …

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The End of My Beloved’s Rope

The End of My Beloved’s Rope

I’m one week shy of being eight months pregnant. My back has gone out twice. I’m tired. I’m cranky. I’m usually half covered in chocolate ice cream smudges. In short, I’m not at my finest. For the past two months, Bean has been sick off and on. He’ll go about a week feeling great and then he crashes. It’s that same cold virus that’s been going around and the constant flux from cold to warm weather doesn’t help things. Any time something goes through his daycare, Bean’s going to get…

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