Busy Doing Nothing Important

I was going to sit down and write an apology for my sudden disappearance from the blog world.  I was going to explain how busy I have been and how much I have been doing.  But then, I realized… I haven’t been busy at all.  And I’ve loved every minute of it! The past two weeks have been full of deliciously unimportant-important time spent with my kids and Chris.  Afternoons are low-key and slow-paced for once.  I’ve been leaving work on time instead of staying later, which means afternoons with…

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Time Out

Dear Friends, There just aren’t enough words to thank you all so very much for your kind comments, emails, Facebook messages, tweets, snail mail, offers of money and printers and computers and DVD players and cameras and all the things in between.  Your outpouring of love, support, and encouragement have made such a dark time much brighter.  It is easy to forgive the bad in the world when there is clearly so much good in it. Chris, Bean, Big Molly, Lucy, and I are at my parent’s house, filling their…

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Operation BWYP: Almost There, But Not Quite

Since moving our family from Connecticut to Florida five months ago, Chris and I have been working on Operation: Bloom Where You Are Planted in our marriage.  It’s what we are calling our attempt to not keep looking ahead and waiting for things that are coming (i.e. a job for me, a house, etc.) but to find happiness in the situation we are living in today.  We’ve been spending more time together as a couple and as a family and it has really helped.  Chris and I are talking more…

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We’re Not Turning the Page; We’re Starting a Whole New Book

Last week I blogged about how my marriage has hit a rough patch.  There weren’t many details because we seemed to be so far beyond details.  But even without knowing the specifics, you all came running to my side.  Two years ago when I decided to open my marriage up for the Internet and all its inhabitants to see and judge, it was for the purpose of not just telling my own story, but of showing that sometimes we all go through hard times in our relationships.  I don’t know…

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A Second Wedding

We finally pulled into our driveway at midnight last night after a week of celebrating my sister’s wedding.  It was a beautiful, beautiful wedding.  I’ve never seen a bride so happy before.  Ginny looked gorgeous and everyone had a really great time.  I’ll be posting a series of pictures this week from the wedding festivities, so be sure you check back for those.  But today, I wanted to write about something that happened to Chris and me at Ginny’s wedding. The past six months have been really hard for us…

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The Part Before the Nervous Breakdown

Let’s take a moment to dive into the inner sanctums of my emotional being right now and try to understand me for a minute. When I get stressed out, I get tired. When I get tired, I get easily annoyed. When I get easily annoyed, I begin to look for things to be mad at. When I look for things to be mad at, I find them. When I find them, I get mad. When I get mad, I fight with Chris. Ergo, because I am stressed out, I have…

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Mission Impossible: Staying Married While Packing

Sunday afternoon, I was in our bedroom packing up a few boxes for our big move to Florida.  We close on our house here and head outta town on Monday, so packing is a top priority these days.  So, I’m packing and I’m making piles for Goodwill and I’m throwing things away and I’m packing more and its hot and I’m pissy and Bean’s crying…  It was a sight to behold. Chris was about to have a heart attack. See, Chris and I function completely differently when it comes to…

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A Moment of Clarity

Last night I talked to Chris like I said I would.  And it was a great conversation.  Short.  Simple.  Honest.  All the necessities for a great conversation in my book.  Chris said he had the same fears sometimes, but that when he got nervous and anxious about all the change, he just thought about Bean.  And how wonderful this move would be for his life and, in turn, how wonderful that would make all of our lives. Perspective is important in a marriage. Today when I woke up I had…

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The Laundry is Back

It is happening again. Laundry is taking over my bedroom, my house, and my life. I literally have run out of clothes. I have been accused once or twice in the past of crying wolf when I say I have nothing to wear (usually while staring into my closet busting with clothes – some with the tags still on them, but that’s a different post). But this morning, I woke up and for the first time in my life I actually, literally, honest to God had not one pair of…

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