Horrible Parenting: Exhibit A

Oh, friends.  I messed up royally this past weekend with Bean.  I have felt horrible for days now and try as I might to tell myself that these things happen, I just can’t shake the guilt. On Friday, we were out of school because of the hurricane, and a friend asked if Bean could come over to swim in the afternoon.  He had been over there for a few hours when the friend’s mom texted and said the boys wanted Bean to spend the night and was that okay with…

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Regretting My Summer

I love teaching and I would do it whether we had summers off or not, but I do love having that time every year with my kids.  Summers have always been my favorite time of year.  I love the beach.  I love the pool.  I love lazy mornings and late nights.  I love leaving the house to run one or two errands and finding ourselves out all day long just on a whim.  And I’ve always been pretty good at summering.  For as schedule-driven as I am during the school…

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A Different Kind of Summer

In the first few weeks of summer, I quickly realized that this summer would be… different.  For one thing, Bean and Gracie are starting to separate themselves from each other in some ways.  Not that they don’t still play together all the time or not get along anymore; they are still best buddies and, thankfully, get along really well.  But their ages and genders have just now started to separate them a little bit.  For example, I signed them both up for gymnastics camp for a week because they have…

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Raising Stubborn Children (named Gracie…)

My mom gave Chris and I the very best piece of parenting advice ever when the kids were about two and three years old.  She said that she and my dad spent a whole lot of time teaching and disciplining when Ginny and I were really young so that they could enjoy the time with us when we were a little older.  Chris and I took that advice straight to heart and it became our mantra through the really tough ages and stages of having two little kids.  We were…

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I Was Mean Girled by My Own Daughter

We are heading to the Keys for a week-long vacation soon, and so I loaded the kids up late last week to head over to Target for the dreaded bathing suit purchase.  Can we all agree that fitting rooms are the devil?  The lighting makes me look like an eskimo, the three-paneled circus mirrors make my stretch marks (which I still have, six years later, thankyouverymuch children…) look like deflated balloons, and the super thin partition walls make it easy for everyone to hear me crying.  The experience simply can’t be…

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Summer Schedules

A few years ago, I learned that the trick to enjoying my summer was to have a very loose, flexible daily schedule.  When I would wake up and just “see where the day took me,” it often didn’t take me anywhere.  The kids and I would stay in our jammies all day being lazy and driving each other crazy.  Don’t get me wrong.  We still have lazy days like that and they are awesome, but every day can’t be a jammie day.  And so I try to keep a general,…

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Double Trouble

The older kids get, the harder it is to keep a straight face when they are in trouble.  AmIright???? The other day, we were driving down the road and they were getting on my last nerve.  They had been in one of those playing hysterically moods where their “fun” can quickly become “murder charges” in the blink of an eye.  I had been getting onto them to leave each other alone, to settle down, to keep their hands to themselves…  Blah, blah, blah… Finally, I reached the last straw and…

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Lessons Learned on a Baseball Field

Last night we had Bean’s end of season baseball party.  We met with our team at a local sports bar and had dinner and a little awards ceremony.  It was a nice way to celebrate the end of a pretty challenging baseball season for our family. Chris and I made Bean play baseball this season.  He had played four other seasons before and loved them all, and somehow he got it in his head that he didn’t want to play again this season.  But he also didn’t really want to…

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Spirited Child Update

Wow!  You all gave me such great insight and ideas yesterday in how to deal with Bean and some clues as to maybe why he is acting out.  I think the majority consensus was that this is part of this age (thank goodness) and that being consistent and in communication with him will help us all get through it (thank goodness).  I’m so glad to know we aren’t the only ones riding this struggle bus right now.  Thanks for the encouragement, imaginary friends! I figured since I updated things on…

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Riding the Struggle Bus with Bean Man

Bean has always been a fairly easy child to raise.  He has a gentle, quiet, laid-back nature that keeps from from getting too wired or upset about much, and he’s a rule follower to no end.  If you draw a line in the sand, not only will that boy not cross the line himself, but he’ll monitor to make sure no one else does either (especially his sister…).  He’s got the sweetest little heart and loves nothing more than hanging out with our family.  He’s just a happy guy and…

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