Happy Belated to My Grumpy Beloved

We celebrated this hunk’s birthday this past weekend and it only proved my scientific theory that men do get better looking as they get older and that’s why women are moody. *eye roll* We took Chris bowling all afternoon because it was raining and because he is a closet bowler. He loves to bowl – always has. And he’s cute while he does it, so I don’t usually mind. I was kind of bummed because I’m not a GREAT bowler. Actually, I’m really, really awful. And this time, I was…

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It’s Under the Log

Some of my favorite conversations are the ones I have with the kids while driving around.  It’s pretty funny to hear what they think about things.  They are even getting to the age now where they have real conversations together, without me having to prompt them.  Those are even funnier. However, conversations between a kindergartener and a preschooler can spiral out of control pretty quickly… After school today, I picked the kids up from daycare and we headed over to Bean’s tee ball coach’s house to pick up his uniform.…

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Learning Through Listening

One of the areas I have been trying to work on in my marriage has been truly listening to Chris and then reacting to his needs.  You’d think that would come naturally in a marriage, but it has taken surprising focus on my part.  The listening part I have really been working on and that is becoming much more natural to me.  But the second part that I have discovered our marriage needs is for me to react to Chris’s needs when I hear them. I had gotten in this…

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Zinger

The past few weeks of sickness in our house has taken a toll on me.  Gracie and I both somehow escaped the epidemic in our household, but taking care of Bean Man and Chris was exhausting.  To make things even more fun, Chris was also working tech rehearsals last week, which meant when he wasn’t home in bed, he was at work until about 11:00 every night.  I was tired of being coughed on, sneezed at, argued with, and irritated by my children.  I was just plain tired, really.  Only,…

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Part 2: Remembering the “We”

Last weekend, we sent the kids to my mom’s for a few days.  I blogged about it last week and said that Chris and I were stressed out from work and it was just the break we needed.  But that was sort of a fib. Sorry, imaginary friends. Yes, work has been stressful and, yes, it was nice to have a little break from responsibility for a few days.  But what we sent them to mom’s for was so that the two of us could have some time together.  We…

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Part One: Remembering the “We”

Chris and I are going through a rough patch right now.  I’m breaking this post up into a couple separate posts (maybe more?) because it’s easier for me to explain in small chunks.  Thanks for hanging in there while I tell this story and while WE work hard to get ourselves out of the ditch. Chris and I are just not jiving these days.  Actually, if I’m honest, it’s been for a lot of days.  Like a few months.  We’ve blamed a spattering of things – kids, money, jobs, etc.…

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Summer Ideals

This past weekend was the big family festival that Chris’s theater puts on every year.  It’s his baby.  He and his staff plan it and organize it for months, so when the big weekend finally comes, it is always a welcome celebration. Summer around our house is a little strange. I am home all summer with the kids, which is a drastic change from teaching all school year with the kids in daycare. I love having this time with them. But being alone with them every day makes it very…

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Confessions About Fighting

I’m sure every marriage is different in their fighting style. Sometimes I hear girlfriend’s talk about fights they have had with their husbands, and I think, “Holy cow, that can’t be healthy!” But I know that when they hear stories about some of mine and Chris’s fights, they probably think the same thing. We all fight differently, and for different reasons. But here are a few confessions about fights in my marriage: 1. Sometimes we go to bed angry. Actually, we USUALLY go to bed angry if we’ve had a…

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In the Silence

I’m in the middle of an eight-week small group Bible study at my church.  Our ministers asked a group of people to participate and go through this sort of training period, so that when they open small groups up to the congregation next fall, we will be the small group leaders.  I’m super excited about it.  I love small groups when it comes to spiritual reflection.  I think I get more out of a group of 6-10 people than I do in any other form of worship. The method of…

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Nagging vs. Communicating

Chris and I are coming off the heels of a tough month for our marriage.  We go through these periodically, and I’m hoping that’s fairly normal.  About once a year, there’s a big explosion in our marriage where everything that’s been piling up gets aired out.  Our big one was last month, and, boy, did it encompass a lot of issues.  We’d just been through the holidays, he was going through a really hard time at work, I was feeling the pressure of a standardized test my kids were preparing…

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