Irresponsible, Immature Pirates

Irresponsible, Immature Pirates

On Saturday night, Chris and I were in our living room together, looking at our finances.  The kids were asleep after a long day and fun movie night, and the two of us were going over our money and plans for our trip to Italy this summer for our tenth wedding anniversary. Have I told you we are going to Italy?  We are!  I am so excited!  We have been planning and saving for almost two years now.  We even opened a special savings account at a different bank from…

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AstroTurf, Lawn Chairs, and Tiki Torches…

AstroTurf, Lawn Chairs, and Tiki Torches…

One night last week, Chris came into the kitchen while I was cooking dinner and announced that he had a great idea for a family activity. This, by the way, is a minor miracle because Chris NEVER comes up with our family activities. (I say that with love…) He usually complains, in fact, when I come up with something for us to do as a family. He has a good time when we get there, but coming up with something for us to do is always a battle. It’s not…

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The Man I Didn’t Marry

The Man I Didn’t Marry

When we were in high school, I loved him because he didn’t care what anyone thought.  He didn’t care what he should or shouldn’t do.  And I loved him for that freedom because when I was with him, I felt free, too. In college, he began to love me as an adult.  Not a perfect adult (are there any perfect adults?), but in that “I will love you for the rest of my life” way.  And I loved him for that promise of what was to come. In the earliest…

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The Best Years

The Best Years

Last week I posted this picture in my post about our Thanksgiving… …and someone commented that they loved my plates. Which made me laugh hysterically for about 20 minutes. And then I called a girlfriend who knew the backstory about those plates and we laughed for another 20 minutes. And anything that makes me laugh for almost an hour is worth a blog post. So, without further adieu, I give you… “AN UPSET IN THE HARMONY OF MY LIFE” by Katie Brown Once upon a time, an engaged couple stood…

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Weddings + @Instagram = #truelove

Weddings + @Instagram = #truelove

Chris and I went to a wedding this past weekend that rocked my socks.  First of all, it had a crucial element to all successful weddings:  A happy couple.  Ashlyn and Josh are the sweetest, kindest, nicest, down-right-perfect couple. Example:  Last year when I was going through a rough time after my dad had died, the two of them decided they wanted to do something to give our family a day of pure happiness.  So, they showed up at Chris’s office one morning and gave him four tickets to Sea…

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Marriage, Money, and Mario

Marriage, Money, and Mario

On Friday night, we had a movie night with our kids, which has become our weekly tradition.  We had a lot of fun with them, but both Chris and I were ready when they went down for the night.  We each had long work weeks full of stress and all the unpleasantness that makes work life annoying and frustrating, and we were looking forward to unwinding this week. Which was why it was his most brilliant moment as my husband when Chris dug out his old Nintendo from the guest…

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I Try Not to Rant, But…

I Try Not to Rant, But…

Normally, I try not to use this blog to make unproductive rants about my husband or family.  True, I complain a fair bit, but I hope readers can see through that and know deep down how much I love my husband and my family.  If I blog about issues or fights we have had, I try not to do so until I have some kind of nugget of wisdom I have learned about the situation.  After all, if we aren’t learning something, then we are just wasting our time. Having…

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Learning Through Listening

Learning Through Listening

One of the areas I have been trying to work on in my marriage has been truly listening to Chris and then reacting to his needs.  You’d think that would come naturally in a marriage, but it has taken surprising focus on my part.  The listening part I have really been working on and that is becoming much more natural to me.  But the second part that I have discovered our marriage needs is for me to react to Chris’s needs when I hear them. I had gotten in this…

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Closing My Mouth and Opening My Ears

Closing My Mouth and Opening My Ears

I’m trying something new lately.  It’s pretty radical.  I’m almost embarrassed to say it because it’s just so OUT THERE. I’ve been listening to my husband. I know!  Crazy, right? I am a talker.  And, this might surprise you, but I’m also a bit of a type A personality.  SHOCKING, RIGHT?!?!?!  These qualities make me an excellent mother, blogger, and teacher.  I know how to take the reins and I can communicate really well.  Oddly enough, these qualities can make it very difficult to be married to me.  I KNOW!!!…

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