Score One for Mom
There are few things Bean loves more in this world than his underwear. He likes to count it, carry it, stack it, fold it, and wear it.
For a while, we really encouraged it. It was keeping him excited about going potty and it kept him interested in potty training. But, we started drawing the line the day that he tried to carry three pair into his Sunday School class. And it was getting awkward to have a kid carrying underwear sitting in the grocery cart at Target. I felt the need to explain to strangers that he was carrying CLEAN underwear. But that explanation just made things weirder. Finally, Chris and I made the rule that underwear stays in the house, unless we are wearing it out.
Bean protested this new decree.
He protested much.
While the carrying of the underwear thing was weird, it didn’t become a problem until recently. In the past two weeks, Bean has suddenly become obsessed with changing his underwear each time he goes to the bathroom. We don’t let him change because we want him to learn how to wear underwear the, you know, normal way…one pair at a time. But every time he’d go potty, he’d start asking for a different pair of underwear.
“I want Thomas!” he’d cry. “Let’s wear Thomas now!”
When he realized that this wasn’t going to get him a change of underwear, I think Bean got a little smarter. This past weekend, Bean started having multiple accidents in one day. He’s been really good about going potty, but on Sunday he had two accidents and on Monday in school he had three. That was highly unusual. And what got my attention was that when I’d pick him up from school, he would announce very proudly, “MOM! I PEED ON WALL-E AND NEMO! NOW I WEARING BUZZ!” He was so happy that he had gone through so many characters.
Now, I had a dilemma. I didn’t want to discourage Bean from going potty and I didn’t want him to think he was in trouble for having accidents (we’ve tried to keep potty training as positive and upbeat as possible so far), but clearly he needed to know that going potty was not a way to get a change in underwear. So, in a fleeting moment of parenting genius, I had a shining moment.
I went to Target and I bought two packs of plain white underwear. This morning, I explained in my happiest voice to Bean that he would get to pick one pair of fun underwear that he would wear for the day. If he had an accident at school, then he would have to wear the white underwear until tomorrow. He just kind of stared at me a little and I couldn’t tell if he understood or if he thought he was in trouble. When we got to school, Bean stood there with me while I explained the new system to his teacher (who thought it was a great idea). Then, both his teacher and I reminded Bean that he needed to tell someone when he needed to go potty so that he could keep wearing his Cars underwear. He kind of nodded his head and I thought that maybe this idea wasn’t making sense to him.
But when I picked him up at daycare today, guess what! NO ACCIDENTS! ALL DAY! And Bean came running up to me saying, “Mom! I still wearing Cars!”
There are a lot of things I mess up as a parent. (Remind me to tell you how I may have been starving Gracie for the past month…) So when I solve a problem, I very seriously pump my fists in the air and yell, “SCORE ONE FOR MOM!”
40 Comments
Nate's Mom @ Nate is Great
You are BRILLIANT! I’m totally remembering this one for whenever we jump on the potty training train!
Heidi
What a brilliant idea!! I wish I had thougth of that about a year ago, when my daughter wanted to change her underwear at every potty break!! I will totally use this trick on my son when it his turn to potty train!!
jessa r.
you are adorable, as a mom and as a blogger. this post made me laugh, out loud, alone in my apartment. love it!
Kate
Genious! I will need to store this idea for a couple months because I can totally see my toddler (who is yet to be potty trained) pulling these stunts. She already wants to change her diaper multiple times a day- Oscar now! Cookie Monster! Elmo!
Jen @ Caved In
Way to go mama! Great idea! Im saving this for when we get to that point.
holly
brilliant.. love it.. totally remembering this one for myself!
Gin
Go Mom! When you started I was wondering how you were going to fix this problem. It sounds like you found the perfect solution. Also Go Bean! I’ve been following you since shortly after he was born and I can’t believe he’s already potty trained.
Christy
I love how Bean is so excited by underwear. I’m going to try and be more like a 2 year old. I may go buy myself some Wonder Women underwear just to make me smile while I’m handling all my adult responsibilities. Thanks, Bean!
Jenna@CallHerHappy
love this post! i laughed. i cried. i cheered! for some reason, the funniest thing to me was that you linked to toddler underwear. i clicked on it and my mom wanted to know why i was searching kids underwear on my computer. awkward! hehe
Lauren
My brother did the same thing when I was helping my parents’ potty-train him. He told us one time that he gave Buzz Lightyear a shower LOL
Danimezza
This is #gold Katie, I’ve shared it on my facebook page. Aidan’s just started in undies and I’m making a mental note of this post x
Jennifer
That is an awesome idea!!!!! Bean is one smart cookie!
Sarah@Crazy Love Gamble-Style
I love when we out smart them!!! You my dear are brilliant!!
Miriamyd
Smart!
Tell us about Gracie… These are the moments I wish we were friends in real life- hah! Because I just went through weight/feeding issues with my little girl at her 9 mo appt. She’s now 1, and still petite. She also preferred to ask her big brother for toys instead of trying to crawl for them herself. So the slight developmental delay paired with the plateau in her growth worried the doctors.
She packs away food like no ones business she’s just a petite little thing who would rather argue and talk to you than move around. Her brother and her could not be anymore different!
Kate
*Love this*. You are adorable … and very clever. 🙂
Lissa
Very, very crafty mommy move! Probably wishing you only bought 1 pack though 🙂
Alaina
Ha, good for you! Very creative!
Jen @ Dancing Through the Minefield
So smart! I am going to share this with the teachers at my preschool…they can always use creative Potty Training ideas!!
Katie
Wow – what a fantastic idea. I love it haha. No kids yet – but I will definitely have to remember this when that time comes!!
Casey @ The Baker Bee
Way to go you! What a fantastic idea! This will be one of those posts that I file for this time next year, when Bug is 2 and a half 🙂
The Life and Times of Me
Awesome. This made me laugh out loud. I’m storing this idea away for when we bring our second one home.
Nikki
Great idea! I need to start taking notes. Actually I just want to take lots of notes because I have baby fever! Bad!! I’m off to discuss this matter with the hubs….
Jessica
Such a cute story!! You are brilliant. Any ideas on how to keep a one year old from rolling over on his changing table??? 😉
Mindee@ourfrontdoor
It’s kind of scary how good it feels to outsmart a 2 year old, isn’t it?
Krista
Okay, so I’m not the first to say this… but GO YOU! I love when I figure out how to outsmart my 3 year old. Such a great feeling! And I love the whole story because it is such a toddler thing to do…their minds are very much alike. Thanks for sharing!
Christina @ Marriage from Scratch
This CRACKS ME UP! You are so smart. I love this idea of having white underwear for accidents-especially ones that are on purpose!!!
Lindsey
Genius!!
Sanja
Katie, that is GENIUS!!! Score two for mom! 🙂
Tara @ Going Small Town
What a fantastic idea! I have to admit I do not think I would have thought of that. And I must say while you out smarted him this time I am totally impressed he figured out what to do to get to the underwear he wanted!!!!
Christina
What a great idea!! I’m going to have to steal it whenever Annika decides that diapers are gross!
Aoife
U R A GENIUS!!!
Kat
This is pretty genius if you ask me! And YAY for mom!
Ann G-B
Nice one!
Ashley @ A Recipe for Sanity
Great idea, Katie! Sounds like it’s working. I have to give Bean credit for figuring out how to get his way and wear multiple pairs of fun undies…thank goodness it’s all getting straightened out! He’s too cute.
melissa
dear katie,
how clever. i does feel good when we are resourceful and efficient. good work!
love, melissa
jenny-bird
Haha! Bean is one smart little boy. Kudos to you for your “shining moment.” Are you having fun buying cute underwear again? Re: http://marriageconfessions.wordpress.com/2008/06/10/big-boy-job-big-boy-boxers/
BeccaK
Brilliant! Take that, super-smart toddler – Mommy wins!
JenMarie
So. Freaking. Brilliant!
I’ve had a few of these moments, and each of them. Oh, man. Do they make you feel good or what!
Lydia
I have to tell you that your posts make me frequently laugh out loud… My husband thinks it is creepy. hahaha That is a brilliant idea!! Go Katie!~
Lindsay Campbell
You are a genius! I’ll have to remember that when we start potty training Patrick.