Last week, Bean moved over to his new preschool class. It was not without some sadness and tears, let me tell you. But Chris and I did the best we could to support Bean as he transitioned. We tried to support his fears and anxieties, while still encouraging him to move forward. Mostly, though, we just prayed.
When I picked Bean up from school on Wednesday afternoon, his teacher met me at the door with a big smile.
“It was a good day,” she said warmly. “He had a really good day.”
I was so happy that my eyes welled up with tears and I hugged her right there on the spot.
That night, Bean confirmed what a good day he had.
“This class gets to go outside THREE times a day!” he said, which is a big change over the two times a day in his other class, unless it was a day when they had outside play taken away, which happened quite a bit. “And I have show and tell on Friday!” This, too, is a huge improvement. Show and tell had been taken away in the other classroom.
Bean went on to tell us about some friends he was making and how much fun he had playing with them. Seriously, I haven’t stopped smiling yet, and it’s been almost a week since this happened! I’m so glad we stayed strong through the hardest part because Bean ended up having a really great first week.
Yesterday, we had Gracie’s birthday party for all her friends from school. While we were there, the most amazing thing happened.
We have lots of families at our daycare who have one child in Bean’s class and one child in Gracie’s, so Bean had lots of his own friends come to play, too. As they played, I got to chat with some of the parents who had kids in Bean’s old preschool class. I had three different families come up to me and tell me that our moving Bean had prompted them to meet with the director of the school and ask for change in that classroom! All of those families were dealing with the same things we were facing, and I had no idea! They each said as soon as they heard Michael had been moved into a different class, they all started to take action to make changes for their families, too.
It was such validation! As parents, you really have no idea what the hell you’re doing most of the time, let’s be honest. You just sort of do what you think is best and hope it works out, I think. But hearing other families were in the same position we were and were questioning the same things that we were questioning made me feel like maybe we WERE doing the right thing. It also was such an eye-opener that other parents are trying to figure it all out, too, and that sometimes all it takes is for one parent to stand up.
I try not to jump on parenting bandwagons too often, but, let me tell you, this bandwagon feels really nice.