We’re Not Turning the Page; We’re Starting a Whole New Book
Last week I blogged about how my marriage has hit a rough patch. There weren’t many details because we seemed to be so far beyond details. But even without knowing the specifics, you all came running to my side. Two years ago when I decided to open my marriage up for the Internet and all its inhabitants to see and judge, it was for the purpose of not just telling my own story, but of showing that sometimes we all go through hard times in our relationships. I don’t know anyone who has a perfect marriage every single day. Actually, I don’t want to know anybody with a marriage like that. But it was my choice to tell my story. My choice to invite you all into the inner sanctum of my marriage. And to see you all willingly invite me into parts of your own marriages and relationships through providing support and encouragement and countless “I’ve been there, too” stories was such a trusting sign of friendship. That was the warmth I felt as I read through all of your comments, emails, Facebook messages, and Twitter responses. It was the warmth of friendship. I felt like I was getting hugs from all over the world. And you have no idea what that means to me. So, thank you for that.
Last Friday night after Bean was sleeping and Chris and I were unwinding from our days, we started talking about what we were going through. And I’m so glad we chose to talk then because neither of us were angry. We weren’t reacting to any specific situation. We weren’t overly emotional in any particular way. We were completely neutral on the situation and I think that is the best time to have an honest conversation. For once in my married life, I’m going to keep the details of that conversation between me and Chris. It was one of the hardest conversations I think we’ve had as husband and wife because we had to admit things that we were both uncomfortable saying out loud. And no matter what you are admitting, putting it all out there on the table like that is a scary, scary thing. I have known Chris since I was 15 years old. He has seen me at my worst, at my best, and at all the stages in between. But seeing something and saying something are two different things. To put my actions and emotions into words was incredibly difficult. And I think Chris felt the same way.
But I am so thankful that I have a partner that I trust completely. And not just someone that I trust will be there for me, but someone who I trust will be there for me and will help me through. That’s the time when marrying your best friend is like an ace in the hole. Chris doesn’t judge me and I don’t judge him. We simply listened to each others fears, concerns, and admissions, and then held each others hands and started to crawl out of that dark place where we have been hiding.
The gist of my conversation with Chris was that we feel like we have lost our identity as a couple somewhere along the path of this move. We feel like we moved to a new place and became different people. And while changing and growing are an exciting part of moving, the differences we saw in ourselves and in each other were not great. Some where along the way we have become one of those “If/Then” couples. Do you know those kinds of people? People who say IF something different happens THEN we’ll make a change. IF I get a job, THEN we’ll move. IF we move, THEN we’ll unpack the boxes. IF I sell my book, THEN we’ll get our finances in order.
If, if, if, if, if, if…. That word seems to have infiltrated our conversations. IF this happens, THEN we’ll do this. We have never been that kind of couple before. We have always been the kind of people who try to live fully and completely no matter our situation.
When I married Chris and decided to not go to law school so that I could move with him to Connecticut, my mom gave me a little ceramic tile printed with one of my favorite sayings: Bloom where you are planted.
Bloom wherever you are planted.
Don’t wait until you are moved to better soil.
Don’t wait until you have more sunlight.
Don’t wait until you have cleaner water.
Just bloom. Right there. Where you are. Bloom where you are planted.
But somehow in this move, we stopped blooming. We froze under the pressure of all the change and started telling ourselves IF things changed, THEN we would take action – IF we got out of our rental house, IF I got a job, IF I finished my book…and the list went on. And while we sat around, miserable in our current state and yet doing nothing about it because we were waiting for something to happen, something did happen. Something terrible happened. We stopped talking to each other. And when we stopped talking, we stopped listening to each other, too. And though we never said the words outright, I think what we were both silently thinking was that IF things got better, THEN we would work on our marriage.
The thing is, change is not arbitrary. At least, I don’t think it is. Change happens for a variety of reasons, but I personally believe change happens because God wants me to learn something. But you can’t learn if you won’t face up to anything. Learning – like loving – is a verb. It is an action. And I can’t learn if I’m sitting here waiting on IF’s.
So, Chris and I made a plan. A course of action. We decided that:
A) Living for the future isn’t healthy because who knows if and when things will happen for us.
B) Living in the past has been hurtful because we aren’t there anymore and letting go of that is the only way to move ahead.
C) We need to start living in the present. Because today is when you take the actions that will pave your path towards tomorrow.
That is a difficult concept for Chris and I to grasp because we have always been goal-oriented people. You work towards something. You work to obtain something. You work to earn something. But what we have to find the balance of is working towards goals while still managing to live in the today.
I’ll have to get back to you when we’ve found that balance…
For now, what we are learning is that when things feel off and when everything starts falling apart, there is a tendency to feel like ignoring the problem will make it better. Like, maybe if we don’t acknowledging the elephant in the room, he’ll just walk out on his own. But, really, the longer you let an elephant stand in your living room without any attention, the more damage he is going to do to your house.
Marriage comes with the responsibility of commitment. And that means that even when I don’t want to work on my marriage, even when I don’t want to talk to Chris, even when I am so overwhelmed that I can’t imagine fixing anything else that day, it is my responsibility to try. It is my responsibility to tell Chris how I feel and what I’m thinking and why I’m unhappy and when I start avoiding those conversations because they are too much of a hassle, then I am not being responsible in my relationship.
Today, Chris and I are still working through our rough patch. But we’re doing it together. We’ve identified what is wrong and we’ve got a little action plan to help us start to get out of our hole. And it is our trust in each other and our responsibility in our relationship that will help us as we begin to tackle that huge elephant standing in our living room.
Marriage is hard. It’s harder than I ever imagined it would be. If you take your eyes off the road for just a second, terrible things can happen. But that’s also the beauty of strong, loving, healthy relationship. Getting back onto the right path can be as simple as turning the wheel.
70 Comments
Megan
Congratulations to you both for talking things through and putting a plan to action!
Marriage is harder than I ever imagined it to be as well. Along with parenting and just being a grown-up in general! But…we will make it through it! Oh yes we will!!
Blessings to you both!
Megan
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Jess
I`m so happy to read this!!
Heather in ND
You two are amazing. Amazing.
You guys are the epitome of love. Of trying. Of sticking together no matter what.
Your heads are on straight and you’ve got great insight.
I wish that, someday, I have a partner that I can work with and have the sort of relationship you guys work at every day!
Angela
I totally second this!
Kate
Thank you for this post Katie. I feel that I am heading in the same direction in my marriage and you just gave me the perfect words to start a conversation with. I couldn’t come up with a phrase for how we’ve been living day to day, but we’re definitely in a “if/then” situation. I’m so glad that you and Chris have a direction to work toward now. You two will make it through this. You’ll find a comfortable place again and I hope it’s soon. Thank you again. (hug)
Marla
I think you’ve got it figured out and an awesome plan to working through this situation. 🙂
Marla @ http://www.asthefarmturns.wordpress.com
pam-tastic
I can’t even imagine how hard this post was to write…so much to say and so many feelings…wow! I too, am a goal-orientated person and don’t function well without clearly knowing what I’m working towards so I can totally relate to these “difficulties” you describe.
‘Bloom where you are planted’ and ‘live in the present’…what great thoughts. So simple, yet so hard…but you can do it! Both of you! ((hugs)) 🙂
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Jennifer in CA
This post speaks to me. We all have rough patches in life and its good to see the two of you working through it. Not all couples are willing, or able, to work through their issues. It warms my heart to read this. Inspirational is the word I am looking for to describe your post today.
Jenn
You’re absolutely right Katie, living for the future isn’t always the best way to approach life. Sometimes, it’s living in the moment and planning for today is the best way to get through things. Yes, you want to get out of the rental and get into your new home but at the same time, this is where you are right now and that’s ok. Although, i’m still working on this one myself :-).
I think it’s great you and Chris were able to have this conversation in a peaceful and respectful manner. best of luck as you move through this patch and thank you for opening up like this.
Amber in TN
I absolutely love this post! It is amazing for me to read how you and your husband have worked on this little rough patch. My husband and I have had our own in the past 13 years, and oh how I wish we’d worked them out like this instead of the hurtful words and anger in the beginning.
Jen at Cabin Fever
That is so great! My husband and I are definitely going through something similar, only our “rough patch” wasn’t precipitated by moving, but rather me choosing to go back to school. It’s put such a strain on our finances, our free time together, and my stress level causing me to snap at the stupidest little things. But you are so right. When you sit down and start talking when both parties are at a neutral point light is shed on things in a new way. Glad you two are figuring it out!
Marriage is hard work, but its the best job we will ever have 🙂
I just spoke with a 86 year old woman who’s been married over sixty years on an ambulance call tonight. Her husband was right beside her and oh so diligent. Both of them were still so in love and devoted to one another. It gives me hope and strength to see things like that. The last thing she told me before we transferred her to the hospital staff was that she was “shooting for 70” as in 70 years of marriage.
Cabin Fever in Vermont
Sara @ embrylovescookies
We’ve all been talking so much about marriage lately, and I think you have just shown us how two people who are commited to each other can work through things instead of walking away. I love that you use the word RESPONSIBILITY so much, because that is what being commited to your marriage and your family is about. Great post.
Beth
I’m happy to hear things are getting better! Sending thoughts and prayers your way!
Betsy
Best post yet!
Paula
Yeah!!! Good for you guys! My husband and I also just had one of those non-heated talks and boy did we need it. I am praying that we can do more and more of those and less of the ugly, nonproductive type. Thank you again for sharing this. I respect the way you are choosing to communicate and share your story.
Heather M
I’m glad that you and Chris have had that beginning conversation. You’ve stepped back onto your path together.
It really is so easy to slip into IF and WHEN manners of living, especially when everything around you is changing. IF and WHENs become a type of emotional crutch. Re-focusing on the now in balance with your goals is healthy 🙂
I remember when I had that first truly difficult conversation with my husband. I had a nervous and slightly panicky feeling in my stomach. I cared SO very much to tell him how I felt, to have him really hear me and most importantly to see if we could forge ahead together in that middle ground.
Honestly – my relationship with my husband and true best friend is generally wonderful. We are not perfect but we appreciate and love each others imperfections. We willingly meet each other where we are and change where we need to – together.
May your conversations deepen, along with your appreciations of each other and I completely respect your decision to NOT share everything. Sometimes those conversations between you and your best-friend need to stay between you 🙂
Leah
Wow, Katie. This is an incredible post. You summed up your struggles as a couple and your plan of action without laying blame anywhere, and in a way that shoulders your responsibility as a COUPLE to work through this together. I am so encouraged and inspired.
While my husband and I have, for the last two years, felt as though we are drying and shriveling up in our circumstances, it didn’t SEEM to particularly hurt our marriage at all, but it did mean that we both felt like we were hitting exhaustion and boredom in life. However, gradually that began to erode our joy in each other, even though we weren’t upset about anything. And we just kept waiting for when he graduated, when we would move, when he would get a job, when we’d go to a new church. But I’ve found that when we had that attitude, even as those things we waited for began happening, it didn’t make anything better.
It was us that had to make things better. By grabbing life by the horns and living it to its fullest. And we’ve tried, but that habit had formed and when things get rough and we get tired, it’s so easy to slip back into that same blahness.
So thank you for vocalizing your feelings, and inspiring me to continue working hard, even when I’m tired, at taking joy not just in life but in my husband, and being thankful that God has me right where I am even when it’s not where I wanted.
Abby @ They Lend Me Their Hearts
Oh Katie I love you. Thank you for your honesty, insight, and inspiration!
Dana
Thanks so much for being so open. As always, you are such an inspiration! I am glad we are at least a little part of your “new book!”
Melissa Sunday
Katie,
I’ve never commented before, but I really appreciated this post, so I thought I’d leave a note.
I’m 25, single, and living far from home, so my life really couldn’t be more different from yours on the surface. However, this post touched me with just the right message at just the right time.
I may not be in your specific situation, but man oh man do I know what you’re going through. I am the QUEEN of “if, then” lately (say, the last 10-15 years) and I’m not happy with my life because of it.
I really love the “bloom where you are planted” idea. It’s simple and catchy and hopeful and may be just what I need to turn my life around.
Thanks so much for sharing this difficult time in your life with everyone. It’s given me insight and wisdom that I very much appreciate.
-M
Ella
Such an open, truthful post! Im really glad you are getting back on track.
Lisa
Thank you for being so honest about what you are going through. I have faith that you and Chris will emerge from this rough patch stronger and more united in love than ever!
Sarah@Crazy Love Gamble-Style
You are such an inspiration to us all. Thank you for reminding us how to do this whole marriage gig. You are right, it is HARD. It is comforting seeing such a strong couple show us how to talk through things. My husband and I are both total avoiders. Bad combo, we let things fester until they blow up. Thank you for writing this post.
YOU ROCK!
Carol
You are such an inspiration to us all (2) Thank you for this post, just needed to read exactly
your words!
“Bloom wherever you are planted.
Don’t wait until you are moved to better soil.
Don’t wait until you have more sunlight.
Don’t wait until you have cleaner water.
Just bloom. Right there. Where you are. Bloom where you are planted.”
Thank you!! Yu are so talented !!
Anu
Katie, it takes a brave heart to pen down such a post. But it not only helps you, it is helping so many others in their lives. I ve also realised in my marriage that being open with each other during difficult times really helps to make things better.Good luck to both of you!
Rebecca
I’ve been a long-time lurker, but I’m “coming out of the closet” (so to speak) to let you know how much I’ve appreciated reading your blog for the past year. My fiance and I are another ‘young couple’ and we recently went through a similar rough patch – but you’re right. When you’re married (or engaged!) to your best friend, talking about things in a neutral way will always shed some light and help two people move forwards. Thank you for being so honest!
Sarah @ Picture Window Blog
What a great post. I love that you write so honestly about marriage, and I’m sure you remind and inspire others to work to keep their own marriages healthy too.
Nate's Mom
I can’t say it better! Hear, hear!
Alaina
That’s so great that you are both mature enough and committed enough to actually talk about what you need and work towards that. Not every couple can do that or is willing to do that. Good for you guys!
Jessica @ How Sweet It Is
This is fabulous. My husband and I have also had moments of discussion – completely neutral, when we talk about how hard marriage is. It is the HARDEST thing I (and he) have ever done. So many people told us that before getting married, that it was hard, but I guess you have to experience it to believe it.
Shannon
Thanks for writing this – I needed it. My husband and I had our re-occuring fight that sneaks back into our marriage from time to time. Just when I think I killed the elephant, the elephant comes back.
Katy
Katie, thanks so much for your honesty. As a newly married lady, I struggle with the fact that my husband and I still have issues to work through and everything is not tied in this perfect newlywed box. I know I love him and he is the perfect partner for me, but we are not perfect people therefore there are times when we need to step back and really talk about what’s going on. Your blogs are so refreshing to read and I appreciate them so much.
Kari
Thank you for sharing Katie. I so appreciate your honesty and candidness. I think it helps more people than you can imagine.
Sarah D.
Thanks for writing this, Katie. It is so refreshing to be able to read a blog about the struggles in marriage rather than reading a blog about how someone has the most perfect marriage with the most perfect husband. Your experiences help me in the journey of my own marriage.
Robin
Katie, this post really struck me. I have been holding in some issues that I’m having with my husband, and I realized I need to talk to him about it before they bubble up and I become resentful. He is living in an “if, then” world, and I think that is affecting the whole family. I so appreciate your honesty. I have only one or two friends who I can talk honestly to about my marriage and what I’m feeling. I admire your ability to put your life out there to all of us. Thank you for making a mark in my mind today. My goal for today – honesty with my husband. To you and Chris – I know with your foundation, you will work through this and be stronger on the other side.
Mary
Thank you for this post Katie; it was beautifully written. Whenever I have those neutral conversations with my fiance during a rough time, it feels like I’m airing out a stuffy closet. I’ve always been a firm believer that people are largely responsible for their own happiness, but as life goes on I find that those words are remarkably difficult to live by. Thank you for inspiring me and teaching me as I prepare to enter into my own marriage.
Ashley
Thank you so much for trusting all of us with this. 🙂 I’m glad that you and Chris have started to really talk about what you are experiencing. You will come out stronger for it. This past year has been the most difficult one in my relationship (ironically, it started after we moved to Orlando as well!), but the two of us talked the other day about how it’s really been the best. We learned even more about how to support one another, even when we may not always be happy with the other person. How to comfort each other even when we’re experiencing our own anxieties. I hope that you all have a growing year as well and that you come out on the other side stronger and better. 🙂
samantha
Katie, I read regularly, but this is my first time to comment. I agree with everyone else – thank you for putting this out here and for allowing us to observe a healthy, productive process. Your analogy about the elephant will ALWAYS stay with me. Thank you, thank you!
Kendra
Katie,
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I don’t know what it is but when I read your posts I see my husband and myself in somewhat of the same situation as you and Chris. Marriage is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but I wouldn’t trade it for the world either. My husband and I have known eachother since we were 13 (now 28) and have been through so much. Your blog has really helped me to think about things in our relationship because I see that I’m not alone. You are amazing!
Bethany
You spoke right to my heart!! Loved this post!
Tabitha (From Single to Married)
So glad you were able to talk about your issues and come up with a game plan – I think that’s half the battle, being able to talk out the problem and then address it.
Katie N.
Katie,
I have to admit that I started reading your blog a few months ago, by chance, and was married within the last few weeks, and I think it’s no small coincidence that I started reading your blog when I did – in the months leading up to my wedding – and that I will continue to read it in my first year of marriage and beyond. You make your points so eloquently, and so relatable, that it’s a joy to read them, to identify with them, and to take moments out of my day to think about the points you make and how I can apply them to my life. Thank you for not only being a source of entertainment, but also a source of inspiration!
Katie
Katie,
Thank you for this post. I am currently in a newer relationship, but we’ve already dealt with miles of issues. From financial difficulties and depression to a myriad of health issues we’ve had a lot of rough times in the short time we’ve been dating. But, your stories and advice have helped me to learn how to better deal with things, and we have made it through strong. I see what you are going through right now and sympathize because we were there. The best thing we decided to do was every night before bed we have to laugh together. Be it having a pillow fight or telling each other stupid jokes or funny stories, we find some way to be silly together right before we sleep. We sleep better and wake up happier the next morning.
Thank you to you and Chris for sharing your struggles with us.
MaryGene
So much wisdom and insight! I have been married for one year as of this month and I really appreciate your honesty when you write about marriage! I heard someone say one time that “hard times are what make you become the person you thought you were, the person you always wanted to be”, and I think there’s a lot of truth to that. My husband and I have had a tough year for myriad reasons, but we’ve also grown exponentially as individuals and as a couple–i.e. we wouldn’t trade our struggles for anything–even though they were painful, even though some days I wanted to crawl in the bed and hide for a good 48 hours, even though working through things was like letting each other dissect our souls–we still wouldn’t give it up for all the tea in China. Bravo to you and Chris and I pray that the Lord brings you closer to Himself and to each other through this time!
michelle from six in the city
Thanks for your honesty. Marriage is hard, isn’t it? My husband and I have been married 21 years and have had our shares of ups and downs and even times when I thought about calling it quits. But it is worth the effort to get through the rough patches, especially when you are married to your best friend.
I also think moving puts a tremendous strain on a marriage. We move every 4 years and this last move I told my husband that the next relocation package needs to include counselling services so we can make it:-)
Praying for you and you continue your journey. Because that’s what marriage is, a journey.
Sarah H.
Great post! I respect for you for not giving all the details but still letting us blog friends know what is going on and that you two are working on it!
Omaha Kat
What a great, honest and well-put post. Marriage is hard, and what you write speaks to all of us. Every marriage has its good times and bad, but the working it out is what makes it all worth while. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing.
Jamie
My husband and I have been “in transition” since we got engaged…3 years ago. We are always about to move, or about to change jobs, or about to get married, or about to do a big home renovation, or about to go back to school, or waiting to finish school….etc, etc. I think it’s high time we started to bloom where we were planted. Thanks for being inspiring. I had faith in you and Chris all along, as I’m sure you did, too!
Best of luck!
Ginny
This post is an answer to so many of my prayers — both for you and Chris and for myself. “Bloom where you are planted” is forever one of my favorite phrases. Love you!
Jessica
It was so great to read this. I love how open and honest you are about marriage and about how yes, couples do have to work at their relationships ALL the time.
I’m getting married in less than 4 months, and while I do love hearing the good things about marriage- I also know there will be rough times ahead- but with love and commitment, you can work through them.
Layne
“That’s also the beauty of strong, loving, healthy relationship. Getting back onto the right path can be as simple as turning the wheel.”
Girl, that’s the best thing you’ve ever said. And so unbelievably true. That’s exactly how I feel about my marriage. We are best friends, committed, together forever. And even when “today” isn’t great, I know that our path back to “great” is not only inevitable but also just around the corner. So with that, you’ve put into words the comfort and security I’ve always had about my own marriage! You rock!
You two are great together and deserve happiness NOW, not later. I’m so impressed with your self-awareness and your determination. Stay strong, stay focused and stay in love.
My prayers are with you.
~Layne
lauren
I heart your blog because not only do you encourage people through trying times but you encourage them in how to figure out those times as well as work through them! Great post and such a testimony of how marriages ups and downs can be tackled.
Life of a Doctor's Wife
This is so honest and so brave… And I am so happy for you both that you are talking and making a plan. I wish you the best of luck for getting out of this rough patch and being able to bloom again.
Cindy
Love this post. You are so honest and wise. I fall into that “if,then” so often. We move every few years with a minister husband and I find myself not completely taking root wherever we are, because I know we will move again in a few years. Thanks for the reminder to bloom where I’m planted!
My prayers are with you and your sweet family!
courtney
You did a fantastic job talking about your conversation without giving too many details. I wish you all the best.
Laura
Great post! I will be praying for you guys. My husband and I just went through a really rough patch earlier this year also. It was so hard. Marriage is so much harder than I ever imagined. It’s the best thing I have ever done though.
Kimberly
Katie,
I don’t comment much, but just wanted you to know how brave I think you are!
HUGS!!!
Becs
It sounds like you guys made a great step forward! I am so glad you were able to have a good talk.
I email your posts all the time to my husband and he really likes them. I can honestly say that some of your posts have helped my marriage. And when we are blessed with our first child, I know your posts about Bean will help me as a mother. Thank you so much for all your advice Katie!
Corinn
Katie,
I have mentioned this before but I, too, married my high school sweet heart (and we have an 11 month old baby boy…) While I wouldn’t change a thing about marrying him, and I agree with all you said about the bonuses of marrying your HS sweetheart, I also think in some ways having known & love someone for so long, starting when you were so young, can cause some issues like this in marriages that others may not get. When you are together for so long, and under such HUGE times of change (high school to college, college to real world, real world to marriage, marriage to parenting….) you change so much, as a couple and a person. I know there has been times on my own relationship and marriage where we have felt the “why can’t you be how you used to be (in this aspect…)” or the “I remember when you used to do this….” and while I think every marriage has those things, not all marriages/relationships have the young & tender years of figuring out who you are, all while maintaining a relationship! (I hope all this makes some sort of sense… I am having a hard time getting it down!) Anyways, when we were in college and people would ask me how we managed to stay together I would always say, “We have just done a really good job with still growing as a person without growing apart.” Sometimes that is easier said then done.
I am so happy for you and Chris, and that you are talking it out. There was no doubt in my mind that you would be able to, though. Thank you for sharing with us… and I hope my rambling made some sort of sense!
Alyssa
You two have something really great- a love for each other that will stand the test of all the trials and struggles:) Thanks for sharing! I’m so happy for you both 🙂
Dawn
Thank you thank you thank you for the words you posted. I am not the only one to day that I really appreciate your sharing what you do on here – this post particularly has helped me put words to some of the thoughts that I have had about how we are living our lives right now, and the feelings I have had about thinking we are in a rut, and need to get out of it. My hubby, I think, is a “go with the flow” type of guy, and I need goals to work toward. This leaves us, as a couple, on different wave lengths a lot of the time- me frustrated that we can’t set goals together and him frustrated that I can’t just relax and flow along with him. But I think we both miss out on living and BE-ing in the present – and blooming – THRIVING, even – where we are planted.
Thanks again for sharing!!!
Jess
Happy Canada Day everyone!! Hope all the Americans have a fantastic 4th of July!!!
Brenda
Thanks you for this post!!! I have been thinking about it since you posted it earlier in the week. You have changed my view of life.
My husband and I are even taking a spur of the moment road trip this weekend. Thank you! Thankyou!
dave
Wonderful post. Very Inspiring!
Meghan
So many people have already said so many things I agree with, so I won’t reiterate here. I just wanted to post a comment to let you know how grateful I am for this post. Thank you for writing about marriage. Thank you for admitting that marriage is hard work. Thank you for taking an honest look at issues and sharing them with us instead of sugar-coating everything and pretending life is perfect. Thank you for sharing how you and Chris are embarking on your way to addressing this rough patch in your relationship. Thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone in my opinions and experiences with my marriage. Thank you for always being inspiring.
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Brittany
I’m a few days late in reading this post but thank you for writing about your own challenges in communication in your marriage. I too am married to my high school sweetheart and find myself wishing things were as easy and romantic and perfect as they were back then. Thank you for posting this. Especially about “Blooming where you’re planted”…….that was a great reminder to be play the hand you’ve been dealt and do what you can with what you have at the moment. Being patient and working together towards a common goal will pay off in the long run.(Lord knows patience is not one of my virtues, but its something I’m working on!) I appreciate your posts and look forward to reading them daily. It’s comforting to know that I’m not the only one who struggles….
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